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Do You Believe in Marriage?
Brown Eyes:
This question is meant to be about your feelings on marriage as a general institution and is not specifically meant to be about the issue of gay marriage. However, if you have strong feelings about the issue of gay marriage, please feel free to express them here.
To you, is marriage...
A romantic ideal?
An oppressive, patriarchal institution that should go the way of the dinosaurs?
Mostly about social pressure?
A stuffy convention?
Necessary as an expression of true love between partners?
Irrelevant to the state of true love between partners?
Something you aspire to... or dream about happening to you one day?
Something you dread?
Important in raising children?
Unnecessary to raising a happy, successful child?
Something that seems to provide personal security or stability, but not necessarily personal fulfillment?
Etc?
Are you currently married or divorced and have strong feelings about the institution of marriage?
How do women view this issue vs. men?
I'm really curious to hear the views of BetterMostians on this really big topic.
Brown Eyes:
I'll add to this question too... has Brokeback changed or impacted your views on marriage?
delalluvia:
Do I 'believe' in marriage?
I don't have to, it exists whether I believe in it or not. ;)
I think you mean if we support marriage as an institution.
I do, so long as you're going to have kids or share property. If not, then I see no reason for it.
Brokeback_Dev:
Growing up and seeing the sick abusive marriage my parents presented as a marriage, I decided long ago that i would never get married and have kids..At least thats what I thought.
Eventually I did want a child, but still didnt want to be married, and I did that I wanted to stay with the dad but he didnt want to stay with me :-\
I've been married to my husband now for 13 years and still very much in love. Ours is not an abusive, sick thing I was trained to believe it to be... My husband is kind, gentle, caring, generous, and very loving. Being married is the best thing that ever happened to me. Security, stability, love, honor, respect, happiness.
Its not a fairy tale, but I think we are happy. Im in it for the long run too. I waited... i didnt get married till my early mid 30's. I wanted to make sure it was the real thing and would last... His parents were married for 53 years. Mine well they eventually went their separate ways..
I believe that when two people take those vows and get legally married, from my experiences with relationships, it gives them a reason to work harder and give and take. Get along and stay. Its too easy to walk away when there's nothing binding you together. Marriage is a good reason to stay together and work through your problems and not walk away.
Has Brokeback changed my views on marriage? Well yes, for gays and lesbians to have the right to get married legally in the eye of the law. Alma and Ennis werent meant to be married and neither was Lureen and Jack Twist. Jack and Ennis should have married each other. Unfortunately Ennis was too worried about the men with tire irons, and for good reason giving the time and place and for what happened to Earl.
I think there is more acceptablity of gay relationships today. I've seen the differences in my life.. If gays and lesbians could be legally married then insurance wouldnt be an issue nor estate. Nor any legal arrangement that the married couple has to deal with. Im not well enough versed on the topic to post much about it, but I do agree in same sex marriage same rights to raise children.
delalluvia:
--- Quote from: atz75 on October 23, 2007, 08:11:56 pm ---I'll add to this question too... has Brokeback changed or impacted your views on marriage?
--- End quote ---
No, my feelings on marriage have been the same for some time, BBM didn't change it.
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