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louisev:
I would like to put my two cents into the subject of pedophilia suspicions. Off and on over a period of years (first while married, then after my divorce) I served as a license foster care provider. Part of what qualified me for licensing (and yes, there is a formal investigation for getting licensed) was my background and education as a high school teacher. While I was serving briefly as foster mother for an abused teen, taking her to her social worker and meeting with the district attorney to prepare a case against her mother (the abuser), the mother accused me of molesting the daughter.
This, it was explained to me, is par for the course, and one of the reasons why foster care providers need to get licensed. Because when dealing with at risk children who have been abused and removed from their homes, those who help are often accused and targeted by those who are guilty.
I would like to add that staying away from kids, and shunning opportunities to do public service, particularly for gay youth - is no solution. There are those who will always raise suspicion, and - like Mark Foley and Larry Craig - they are the ones who are hiding their own shame and guilt about who they are, and seek to victimize others. We should not let them.
Kelda:
I'll tell you what, I'd happily have my kids party in the company of all you male bettermost residents any day. Roll on Brokie Barbeque 2015 or soemthing when I might have some kiddies of my own to bother you with!!
delalluvia:
Oh for goodness' sake. Since some of my comments have already been explained, I won't go into it again, but I will defend a comment I made.
When you are at the age where the only single people you have available to date your own age are coming off their first divorce and invariably have children, yes, these people's children are baggage.
It's not a positive thing in the dating world. Repeating myself, if you date such a person you will always be second runner up. If that's OK with you, go for it. But for the rest of us, children are problematic and not desirable in a person you want to date.
And that should be OK. We all make decisions as to who we want to date. What qualities we accept in a person and what we don't. It is a judgement call. This should not be condemned, otherwise we might as well criticize anyone who happens to have a 'type' or other preferences.
We like who we like. Nothing is going to change that. You might as well ask Hugh Hefner to stop dating young skinny blonde women with big fake hooters and get someone his own age.
OK, the criticism may be "Well, you're missing out. This person may be the love of your life."
I'm willing to take that risk in order to avoid having to deal with children - who may or may not like you - a parent struggling to make ends meet and may not be able to be with you as much as either of you like due to the demands from the children or whatever little morality games may be involved ("You can't stay here all night, my kids will see you!" type shit).
This kind of thing you have to put up with if you want to be with these single parents because quite frankly, they're not your kids. So you have no say in how they're raised or how they're disciplined or how they're treated - or, how the kids treat you!
And of course, not to mention that not every person who has children and is divorced has an amicable relationship with their exes.
Indeed, Ryan and Reese do not seem to have had a very amicable divorce. I read this in some rag, not sure how accurate this is, but Ryan Phillippi supposedly made a BBM crack about Jake to his friends, re him dating Reese.
Ex-husband/wife jealousy. Jeez.
You avoid these headaches by avoiding single parents as potential dating partners.
So, yes, sorry to say, for many single people, a man/woman with children is not going to be our first choice in partners.
When you get down to it, all that matters is what Jake likes and feels is good for him, but we all know that his track record is not good dating-wise. Now he's possibly involved with a divorced woman fresh out of a long-term marriage. When the rumors of them together first started circulating, I put forth my opinion that he may be good for Reese - self-esteem support and all - but she was likely not IMO good for him because she was likely on the rebound. I stand by that opinion.
MaineWriter:
I read on a celebrity blog that this whole thing is a faux-mance, cooked up because "Rendition" is tanking.
Seems plausible to me.
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LauraGigs:
--- Quote ---I read on a celebrity blog that this whole thing is a faux-mance, cooked up because "Rendition" is tanking.
--- End quote ---
If that happened every time a movie was tanking, we'd be way more awash in celeb couples than we already are...
You never really know who to believe, and I'm not arguing against that theory per se. But would actors with the clout that they have really need to cave in to pressure to do that? You'd think once they've made the film and done the press junket, it would be like, "I'm done with this project".
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