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Offline souxi

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Homophobic people
« on: November 08, 2007, 08:14:56 am »
On the site where I moderate in chat, we also have very lively message boards. Someone has started up a thread about gay marriage, and one of the replys has left me speechless, and I don,t know how to respond to it.
It says, and I quote:
"gays are sick in the same way pedophiles are sick. They need to be treated not encouraged"

Can you beleive that?? I mean I realise not everyone agrees with gays but thats a terrible thing to say.!! I need some of your views before I reply. I need to calm down as well.  >:( >:( >:( >:(

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Re: Homophobic people
« Reply #1 on: November 08, 2007, 11:45:01 am »
On the site where I moderate in chat, we also have very lively message boards. Someone has started up a thread about gay marriage, and one of the replys has left me speechless, and I don,t know how to respond to it.
It says, and I quote:
"gays are sick in the same way pedophiles are sick. They need to be treated not encouraged"

Can you beleive that?? I mean I realise not everyone agrees with gays but thats a terrible thing to say.!! I need some of your views before I reply. I need to calm down as well.  >:( >:( >:( >:(

Souxi,

That is indeed a very horrible thing for someone to say.  If it were me, I would probably say something like 'I completely disagree with you; you obviously have been misinformed.'  And I would send them to the list of resources in Safe Haven (http://bettermost.net/forum/index.php/topic,7814.msg268239.html#msg268239) for them to educate themselves.  (Indirectly, of course - we wouldn't want to bring them here!  ::) ;)).

Seriously, you need to figure out their intent.  If they are a troll-type, then ignoring them is probably better than engaging in debate.  If they are serious, then reaching out with information in a loving way is the best approach.  A Google search will get you to plenty of other resources to help you too.

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Re: Homophobic people
« Reply #2 on: November 08, 2007, 12:29:27 pm »
Even if I am for democracy, I think and request that that message of hate, anti-gay, etc., be taken out, as it is anti-human!


I say that not only because I am a gay man and that it offends men like myself (and ladies) to read such anti-life words, but also because it HURTS!

When I go to YouTube, I note to YouTube to take those offensive words away, especially concerning the BM movie!

Awaiting your comments,

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Re: Homophobic people
« Reply #3 on: November 08, 2007, 06:09:19 pm »
geesh...  :-\  no real answers here im afraid, im sure others have great answers...
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Re: Homophobic people
« Reply #4 on: November 08, 2007, 06:50:28 pm »
I've seen and heard venemous responses like this too, both on the Internet and in person. It's very hurtful when people say things like this. :'(

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Re: Homophobic people
« Reply #5 on: November 08, 2007, 07:03:52 pm »
Hi all!

I am happy that this subject is talked about! This way, we can prepare ourselves against being hurt, maybe?

How?

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Re: Homophobic people
« Reply #6 on: November 08, 2007, 10:19:16 pm »



             iI really dont see how anyone in this day and age, can possibly be sincere, in such a statement.
There is plenty of access, to inform yourself if you really want to know the truth.  I think they just
want tocause trouble.  However you could do as Lynne says, and refer them to other sites that give
plenty of hard core proof that he / or she is an idiot, or a bigot or both..
             Other than that.  I would just ask them to not come there where people will obviously be
hurt or angered.  Say you wish to have a calm and intelligent discourse, and if they are unable to do
that.. We will ask you to leave.        JMO



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Re: Homophobic people
« Reply #7 on: November 08, 2007, 10:51:39 pm »
my reply to this is:

"whatever"


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Re: Homophobic people
« Reply #8 on: November 08, 2007, 10:56:45 pm »
Say you wish to have a calm and intelligent discourse, and if they are unable to do
that.. We will ask you to leave.

I think that sounds like the best idea. Don't give it the dignity of an argument. Treat it the way you would treat a racist comment -- unacceptable, and grounds for being required to leave.

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Re: Homophobic people
« Reply #9 on: November 08, 2007, 11:01:56 pm »
One must defends oneself when death can be in front of you because you are a gay man!

There are many, too many countries, where gay men are to-be-unseen, unfortunately, and not only in islamic countries: even in countries in Europe where the president is anti-gay and says so like gays are all crasy persons as they say or mental needing to be jailed or killed for what they are!!  Unfortunately, so it is even in Russia?

There is a long way to fight against such homophobic persons!! How?

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