Thanks Gary!
Your comments are very, very interesting to me. They also puzzle me... (you know that is the way I am, puzzled about life!)!!
Since I just got a call from someone saying that her mother just passed away, I am in difficulty in reading you and in answering you. I will try, especially with questions to some of your thoughts, OK?
You say:
Of course you can wonder if Jack and Ennis were really gay. You can wonder about anything you like. No one needs anybody's permission to wonder....
Gary to that: may I say in agreement thank goodness one can wonder, even if a person figures that life is like a prison or even when tortured!!
To wonder is great!! My views about Ennis and Jack being gay or otherwise have changed somewhat, even yesterday about one!! I will likely colour that further as I go on finding about them!! (And about myself and others too, of course!!)
...
Gary when you say:
But I personally think Jack and Ennis were gay. You can argue that they were bisexual. There may be something to that. I suspect most people are bisexual to one degree or another, even if they won't admit to it....
Gary to that, may I say that was, is and, I guess, will always be a puzzle to me:
bi-s!! I think too that most persons are bi-s, to certain degress, as you say!! Including myself! Will talk about
moi on that later, if you or anyone like, but for now, am puzzled about bi-
living!!
Why??....
Gary you add:
But it seems to me that Jack and Ennis were primarily interested in one another, and the reason they had wives was because they felt pressure to live up to societal expectations. .....
Gary:
That really puzzles me!!Gary may I question: I do not really know if it is
only society (in our civilisation still) that forces gay men to marry females, as wives!! ?? Of course, many persons expect a straight, bi or gay or other guy to marry a female
... as that continues as the
norm, for now... and I question that too. But related to that word
expectations is another question: to me, many gay men do also
want children and/or to marry a female and have a wife therefore!! ?? Right? And in that range, there are some who are bi-s who
also want their
gay partner!! ?? Right??
So, maybe there are some
ménage à 3 Which I would find that normal too, and which I would have maybe preferred??
.....
Of course you and others are welcome to comment. I still think that the BM movie is somewhat anti-gay, etc., as well as pro-gay, in some degrees and find much more everyday about that, especially regarding normalizing... too!!
Your other lines, may I comment later. And remind me if I forget!
For now, I do not see why Ennis is
not considered OK having married a female to be his wife, and for them both to have children (since he cares for his children and her too); plus have his
straight, bi-, gay, or other male lover!!
Hugs!!