Good points, Chrissi.
I was thinking along the lines of a perfect world. In a perfect world, someone would have been there to intervene before it was too late.
I could easily make myself crazy just thinking of "if onlys".
I don't think it has to be a perfect world,people just have to give as well as take.I would guess a lot of people took grom Heath,both in terms of demands on his acting schedule and also in terms of his celebrity.Not many seem to have given back,or even taken time to listen to both waht was said and unsaid.I know he was a good actor and so capable of hiding many things.(To refer to another post)
However there were still signs there,not least his own words,of how tired he was,and what a toll the role was taking on him.Even the obvious ,to me ,fact that he loved his daughter so much and yet was seeing so little of her,not even at Xmas I believe.That would upset any parent,yet alone one with seemingly other heavy burdens as well.
I have been bipolar for years like my son and despite the fact that in many years my husband(,not the most of observant people) has never seen a depressive episode,only the manic side.He still saw almost immediately the warning signs.Like wise my friend back in England and she was only on the phone to me.
I wonder did people around him just not want to see.Even if they offerered help and he turned it down,and we will never know the truth,there are ways of getting help for even the most stubborn of cases.
I know only too well as I am unwilling to get help with the depressive stage, as it then stops the later manic stage which I like.!!!! and also allows me to be incredibly productive.I am learning for the sake of my children to take the medication and take the help.
Sorry,reading back I seem to have covered several posts here.Just my rambling thoughts.I just do truly think the signs were there.
My wish is that just one person had taken control.Also that maybe he could have come across this site and seen how deeply he was 'loved' and regarded.
One last query why when he was prescribed all the medications ,did no physician insist on a follow up,to see how he was doing.If I do not attend my follow ups,the physician just rings and rings untill finally my husband drags me along.
Once again for responding to so many different posters thoughts in one post!!!!