Very Good point.
This reminds me of a line in a song I once heard.
It's called "Has Anybody Seen Amy"
The line says : "You can always go home but you can never go back"
It is so true....
That is such a clever line,you can always go home but you can never go back.
Even at it's most basic level, leaving the parental home,you can go home again, but it is never the same as it was before you left.In many cases you go home as an adult and parent yourself.
I am going to pinch that phrase from you, and have it as my TOTW.
If it is any consollation, I still sob at even the music never mind the film.I really thought I had moved on and away from my impossible love,across the Atlantic actually.In truth I had not.
I have now sort of reached a stage where I am nearly cried out,following a full blown depressive episode,and in a country not my own.I know it sounds crazy,but if you allow yourself to feel the emotions and really let them out,it can be healing.
BBM allowed or almost forced me to do that.At first I tried to contain what I was feeling, then I just gave up.
I really hope you find some peace,and I do truly believe grieving is healing,even if it does not seem so at the time.
If you do not grieve for whatever,situation,person,impossible love,lost dreams a whole host of things,you can never be free to move on.
I even grieve for my oldest son, because he will never be the child he should have been.
Nearly his whole life since 5 has been psychiatrists and different meds.
So watch BBM again and sob your heart out,for days if necessary.
Because though it may be true that we can never go back, we can if strong enough move forward.I hope you get strength and peace.