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iluvchocolate:
I debated whether to post this on another thread or make it it's own.   I wonder if there is many "closet"fans???.   I told the people I go to school with that I liked BBM....They looked at me funny "YOU?  Like "that" movie" someone at school asked me with huge eyes and a shocked look.  They looked at me even funnier when I said I had been to some of the scenes of the movie.   
 
I orginally saw the movie with alittle nuge from my husband... who had seen it a week before on his "quiet night out".  When I saw it I knew what the story line was about, cause my husband had told me.  For him he had gone to see the movie because it was all done in this area.  I don't think he ever expected to like the movie.  We had never connected on this level before.

But back to the "closet"  fans.  If I, a white, married, female, with 2 kids.   Is questioned about the movie (and yes my husband is questioned about it, even here on BM).  I wonder if theres many out there.  I do know a few who when they found out that I had actually been to some of the movie scenes gave in and told me... in hopes to see the pictures my husband had taken.   As well  this one friend who is straight went on a camping trip and questioned their best friend if they had seen in the movie..... and the person they were questioning started talking smack about BBM.  That there made the person not want to reveal that they were a BBM fan, and understood the movie most likely more then they could understand. And they hadn't even seen the movie.   Even on t.v theres is comments about it.  Look at scary Movie 4.  They make light of BBM "oh I am just grabbing some nuts".  There has to be more people like us out there that like Brokeback Mountain. Whether gay, Lesibian, Bi sexual, or straight.

I faught it for a bit tried to put different spins on it.  But then I realized I needed to explore myself more.  And boy I have explored!!!  And at the same time it has opened a whole new level of talking with my husband I respect his emotional side.might get it for saying that one  ;) ;D

So what's your take on this?? do you know what I mean?? Do you think theres "Closet " BBM fans?

nakymaton:
*raises hand*

Well, people I work with know that I went to see BBM, because I got one of their kids to babysit. (He commented that he had heard that it was a very good movie, but, "ummmmmm... controversial." And another of my friends knows that I went to see it at least twice, because I tried to get her to come with me the 2nd time. (She had already seen it, but wasn't obsessed.)

So there's "yes, I went to see that highly acclaimed artistic Ang Lee movie." And then there's "I really, really liked it and kept obsessing about it for months." I'm not in the closet about the first, but the 2nd? Yeah.

Meryl:
I'm sure there are closeted BBM fans.  How could there not be?  But unless they're on the internet, we're not likely to know who they are.

In the days before the internet, you depended on fan magazines to feed your obsessions.  When the hullabaloo about a movie faded, it's likely your interest faded, too.  I'm sure I would have a normal life now if it weren't for BetterMost.  As it is, I've got a BBM habit that requires a daily fix.  ;D

I don't make it a secret that I'm a fan of the movie and that I frequent a website where we discuss it.  My friends/family know that I've met some of my BBM friends in person, as I did my Lord of the Rings friends.  But that's as far as I go.  I've learned over the years that no matter how enthusiastic I am over something, it never really translates to other people.  They have to find it for themselves to really appreciate it.

iluvchocolate:
Well I guess bottom line is, that I mean that.... It wouldn't surprise me if there was Cause of Todays society.  I mean look at model and they way they set standards for for teenage girls to be thin.  But I can't believe that anyone would let todays society set it.  I mean look at Ellen degrense (sp?)  and Rosie O'donnel.  When they spoke out about their sexuallity their public appearance changed. 

bbm_stitchbuffyfan:
I wouldn't expect for a married, hetero woman to have to be a closeted fan. What are you afraid of? I mean, if someone's gonna talk smack about BBM, tell 'em how it is: that this movie is fantastic and artistic masterpiece.  ;) Ahh, I know everyone's entitled to their respective opinions and what not, but I get very peeved with the more outrageous Brokeback revolutionaries.

One occasion that I'm still kicking myself over: At work one day, my boss had told me how she called me the day prior and heard that I was at the movie theatre. Turns out she was at the same theatre, seeing Nanny McPhee with her kids and she asks me, "What did you go see?" I said, "Brokeback Mountain." (It was my 5th viewing.) She asks, "Hmm...and what'd you think of it?" I was like, "Eh, it was depressing." And I realized as I said it that I sounded as though I was indifferent to the movie so I quickly added "But very well-done!" At that point, someone started talking to her so I doubt she paid the slightest amount of attention to what I had to say then.

I know in the grand scheme of things, it's really not important but if I could do it again, since people so rarely ask me what I think of Brokeback (and it's one of my very favorite things to talk about), I would say how I really feel -- like Ennis should have done -- "It's, what I believe to be, the best movie I have ever seen. It's devastating, beautiful, subtle, honest, and artistic, and I could watch it again and again."

I don't usually let people know that I'm obsessed with this movie but I try to be upfront about it. If it comes up -- which for some reason, it very rarely does -- I'll say things like, "Yeah, I thought it was really good. Ang Lee's a genius. It was wonderfully-acted."

Those, still, are such understatements.

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