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iluvchocolate:
No it wasn't me.  I am actually quite open to this movie.  But I do have friends that aren't.  I have tried to tell them them that if people don 't understand that they aren't ........forgive me for saying this but........ bright enough to realize that you can and will make your own judgements in life.  My classmate in school actually thought cause I liked the movie and she didn't that I should change my mind..... Of course she was shocked when I came in to school saying I was at the stops where the film was taped.

Its people like her that want the world to comform to her way.  She has tried to get me to change my opinion about BBM and of course she hasn't.  I love BBM!  I enoyed seeing the mountains and the sets from the movie just as much as my husband.  I am not ashamed of it.  But others need to stand up and say "Hey I LOVE that film"! and not care what others like.  They are not worth being friends with if they passed a negative judgement on you about the film.

serious crayons:

--- Quote from: bbm_stitchbuffyfan on September 01, 2006, 11:59:24 pm --- What are you afraid of? I mean, if someone's gonna talk smack about BBM, tell 'em how it is: that this movie is fantastic and artistic masterpiece.
--- End quote ---

What I do/have done:
-- Recommend it to everyone I know
-- Praise it to the stars, talking about its artistic greatness, emotional power, fantastic acting and writing, etc. etc.
-- Admit I've seen it more than once (exact number varies according to whom I'm talking to)
-- Curse the Academy Awards and vow to boycott the Oscar show from now on
-- Defend it to people who don't like it or are reluctant to see it; at the very least react scornfully toward their ignorance and lack of taste

What I don't do/haven't done:
-- Admitted I have seen it 15 times (except to a few select people, all of whom have their own little odd obsessions)
-- Told anyone about my participation on the BBM message boards (again, with those same few exceptions)
-- Told ANYONE outside this board the extent to which I have thought obsessively about the movie for the past eight f'in months -- at times almost constantly during every waking hour (you all are sworn to secrecy)

For the record, this has a lot less to do with the content of the movie than with my obsession itself. The fact that it's about gay people would probably raise a few additional questions in some people's minds. But among my friends, the movie obsession itself would be by far the overriding weirdness (as, frankly, it would be to me, if I weren't the one experiencing it).

Rayn:
Yeah, of course there are "closet fans of BBM", just like there are many people who feel that gay men and lesbians should have the right to marry in the USA, but don't talk about their support of that issue out of fear that someone will think "they are queer!" or they're aren't "good Christians" or they "have a gay person in their family" or some dreadful event like that! (LOL)   ;)

But the wonderful thing about the movie is that it got and still gets people talking about homosexuality.  The more people talk about it, openly and honestly, the more many will understand that the orientation isn't as rare or strange as some try to tell us. 

So, I say, COME OUT OF THE BROKEBACK MT FAN CLOSET!  Don't be afraid to talk about it.  It's just a movie, and then, it just way more than a movie too.

Rayn

Katie77:
My biggest problem is finding people who have seen the movie......

I would guess that if they havent all ready seen it, then there is not much possiblility that they will become obesessed with it.....I know I was watching the theatre adverts, hanging out for it to be released here, I was all ready into it before I had even seen it, so I suppose it was going to be a normal progression that I would end up obsessed with it.

If I talk to people that havent seen it, I try to convince them to get the dvd, and watch it.....when they say to me, "isnt that the movie about the gay cowboys?", I say "it is a love story, it just happens that the love is between two guys, watch it with an open mind".....

I would think that if anyone was a "closet Brokie", they would soon come out, if they met someone who was openly a Brokie, so as they could at least have someone to talk about it with....

My guess is that there are probably people out there who have an obsession, but either dont have anyone close to them that feels the same, or they havent found a message board....so dont have anyone to talk about it with anyway.....

Ellemeno:
Every friend I've taken to see it I told I've seen it before and thought it was so wonderful that I wanted to see it again with them.  I didn't tell more than a couple of friends that it was 10, 20, 30 times before.

For me, my reticence has nothing to do with the content.  I live in an open-minded area, and as far as I know, none of my friends are anything but gay-friendly and/or gay.  No, I keep quiet about it because I'm embarrassed to be so obsessed about anything this much.

'Course I do have a big ole BBM poster hanging on the wall in the family room, but that could just mean I like the movie or the poster art, is all.

My husband knows everything, and empathizes, and is in fact relieved, in a way, I think, because he gets his own obesssions, and he's gald to know I have it in me - takes some of the judgment off of him, or something.

And that I moderate a forum devoted to it - my husb, my mom, my sister, my daughter, and two friends know.  That's it.

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