Our BetterMost Community > Chez Tremblay
Another viewing, and a revelation
JennyC:
Barb and David,
I am just catching up with this thread. Enough have already been said by everyone here. I just want to say that you have my utmost admiration for having the courage to share this, and my deepest gratitude for entrusting us with the thing that you have kept a secret for so long. Nothing to be ashamed of by you. The shame is on the person who inflicted this on you when you were in a more vulnerable position. Be proud that you have given voice to all those who still can’t. It will never get better if we just choose pretending it never happened and don’t ever talk about it.
Hugs to you two! And hugs to Ed, for being a trustworthy and understanding husband/friend, and for crying at the final scene…
SFEnnisSF:
--- Quote from: Lynne on October 18, 2006, 01:04:23 pm ---Eric is so wise, isn't he?
--- End quote ---
Aw shucks. Didn't come directly from me. I learned it all on the boards. But it is true.
This is an OPEN NARRITAVE movie, meaning you are given bits and pieces of the story and it's up to you, the viewer, to add your own experiences and complete it. So, what you bring to the movie is what you take away from it. And since there are many different themes going on in the movie, we all have something different to contribute and to get out of it. It has been interesting meeting everyone at the social events, and learning about how and why the movie affected everybody and why they felt they connected with the movie so much. And everybody's reasons are different. It's facinating the depths and broadness of the many differnet stories and reasons I've heard. It's humbling that this movie has had such an effect...a positive effect because it has helped many people deal with emotions they might not have dealt with if it hadn't been for this movie.
Barb, thank you for sharing your story with us. I am glad you feel comfortable enough and trust us enough to talk about it with us. Big hugs from me too. I hope for the best with you and Hubby... Relationships are difficult, and I think you guys are making some good progress...
And this whole Foley thing was blown way out of porportion by the media. Anything to sell newspapers and TV ratings... People love a scandal, and the press loves to create them.
ednbarby:
--- Quote from: sfericsf on October 22, 2006, 01:17:18 am ---And this whole Foley thing was blown way out of porportion by the media. Anything to sell newspapers and TV ratings... People love a scandal, and the press loves to create them.
--- End quote ---
Ain't that the truth? Brings The Eagles' "Dirty Laundry" to mind. Kick 'em when they're up, kick 'em when they're down. Well, I coulda been an actor, but I wound up here. I just have to look good, I don't have to be clear...
One nation under the new media... As much as I agree with all you've said, I still thank my lucky stars every day that the guy's a Republican.
ednbarby:
--- Quote from: goadra on October 21, 2006, 10:09:02 pm ---Another reason for not saying anything: The first time you mention it, no one believes you. In fact, you’re told not to make things up.
There are folks who’ve said they hate Ennis for what he did to Jack, think Ennis should just ‘get over it already,’ reject what his father believed, etc. I’ve never quite understood that. It doesn’t matter whether he’s 19 or 39 or 80, Ennis is the walking wounded. He had his innocence stripped away. Once that’s gone, you never get it back.
Jack’s love was up against an insurmountable obstacle. I’ll never blame Ennis for being afraid or confused, just wish I could tell him myself “s’all right.”
--- End quote ---
So true. All you've said. I don't get it when people hate Ennis, either. He breaks my heart, and I just want to rock him in my arms in the end, but I could never hate him. Even if you haven't experienced traumas like he and so many others have, you ought to be able to have some compassion for someone who's been through a horror you can only imagine yourself living through (and wouldn't want to).
"Love and pain become one and the same in the eyes of a wounded child."
fernly:
Barb and David,
My heart goes out to you both in admiration for your strength.
something about telling or not telling:
I've had to call CPS for a number of children who've passed through my classrooms over the years. Not once did those referrals happen after a child walked up and said they were being abused. They came after a simple (no prompting) "What's wrong?" when a child flinched every time a grownup came near, or, for one student, after I asked why they were wearing a long quilted coat on a warm spring day. (What that father had done was bad enough that the system did take notice. He went to jail for a long time.)
Other referrals, in contrast, happened after parents (amazingly) volunteered exactly how they were 'disciplining' their child, like having them kneel on cement for hours.
Navigation
[0] Message Index
[#] Next page
[*] Previous page
Go to full version