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An umpteenth viewing and... three revelations

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Momof2:
The Shirts.  OK.  How THE HELL can anyone not be moved by the friggin' shirts???  It must be homophobia and nothing else.  Otherwise, I don't get how you can come to a point in a movie where you see that someone has carried a torch FOR TWENTY FUCKING YEARS to the extent that they have spirited away their love's shirt and kept it hidden in a childhood closet, covered over with their own shirt from that same period, and not be reduced to a PUDDLE OF FUCKING TEARS.  What is FUCKING WRONG with you?  I'm sorry, but again, I have the diagnosis:  Homophobia.  You CANNOT get past the fact that these are two men instead of a man and a woman, can you?  Allow me to turn all those hackneyed premises on their ears for a moment and ask you this:  If this were a story about a man and a woman and say... a notebook... would you not be equally as moved?  Morons.
Amen.  I have mentioned before that the 1st love of my life died while we were Freshman in college.  Total devestation and to this day the 2nd greatest love of my life.  We started dating in 9th grade.  I saved everything he ever gave me.  I had a note he wrote me while at church one night and slipped it to me.  Just one of those silly little notes.  I was with my sister the other day and we were going through some old things and I found the little bag I kept all of his stuff in.  I know it is stupid.  I opened it up and the first thing that fell out was that little note.  I read it and started crying.  My sister was looking at me and then my husband came in there.  He asked me what was wrong.  My sister said she had no idea.  I showed him the note and he smiled.  He knew my 1st love.  He just looked so mellow.  He said, Isnt it amazing how something that old can bring back such strong memories of love.  My sister with mouth hanging open just sat there.  It was just a stupid little note, but the love of my life knew how something that was 21 years old still meant so much to me.  He has a letter from his girlfriend that committed suicide.  Does not bother me in the least.  He loved her and it is special to him.  It reminds him as does my note that life is not fair and that even though we both lost the 1st love of our lives that we now have each other.

Homophobes will never accept or understand what the movie or the shirts mean.  That is entirely their lost and I feel sad for them.




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ednbarby:
So true, Momof2.

My husband wept the first and only time he saw the movie, and at that point when Ennis finds the shirts and realizes what they are/meant to Jack.  He understands what loving someone that much is, and the fact that he's straight doesn't make the impact of that scene less deep at all.  When I saw that he *got* that, I felt like Nicolas Cage's character in Moonstruck when he looks over to see tears streaming down Cher's character's face during his favorite opera.  I honestly don't know what I would have done had he just not gotten it at all.  Being the all or nothing person as I am, it definitely would have put a serious damper on our relationship at the very least.

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