My first funeral was my twins, when she died at 20. She had told her friends (yes, they discussed it) that she wanted bright colors and sure enough that's what she got. I didn't know and I wore a purple color. Hers was very formal.
Both my parents were scattered at sea.
I want an informal funeral. People just sharing stories and connecting. Nobody worrying about what to wear, no church, since I'm pagan. That's the wake part. For the actual burial, burn me up and scatter my ashes in the forest, preferably near a stream. That way whenever someone sees a tree or is in a woods, they can think of me.
Although I don't expect a lot of folks to show up for my funeral. My kids. My siblings maybe...