I am still puzzled if I can tell if a man is straight or gay!!
I think that I was more acurate when I was younger and found many who were gay men, especially married ones with wifes!! Maybe, because those times were much more open like in the 60's and 70's; called the sex revolution?
To-day, I am in my sixties and it's 2007! Is society letting me find more gay men? In some many ways yes! There are legal gay marriages in Canada, now; in the sixties or before, you would be called queer or be hospitalized or placed in prison for such sex and/or friendships!! Can I tell to-day if someone is gay on a gay internet site? Maybe, or likely so he will be!! At least, we have that! And we have some gay bars in certain places or large cities, gay groups, few gay suanas, pornos films, and much more like gay movies : BM, LOVE, etc.; but much more can be done yet?? It remains that many places are straight bars like in the BM movie?
Above all, there is always danger!! And we all must be very careful in Canada, in the USA, in England, in France, in Spain... and in maybe other countries (obviously the islamic ones and others where death occurs against gay men in a row!!)!!
Even in our democratic countries such as in Canada and the USA, it remain hard to tell if one is a gay man?? !! That seems so to me!! To you too?
Hugs!