Brokeback Mountain: Our Community's Common Bond > Heath Ledger Remembrance Forum
Poll: Your opinion on Jake's silence
BelAir:
--- Quote from: atz75 on March 25, 2008, 09:00:51 pm ---It's so interesting to see the intensely personal perspectives we're all probably bringing to this question. I think each of our reactions to this particular situation with Jake just has so much to do with all of our own feelings about grief and loss (and also our own personal ideas about how best to respond to grief and loss - both in terms of personal reaction and public etiquette).
This is really such an incredibly intense thing to be going through and working through as a community. :'(
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I agree with you very much on that last point Amanda, and I think everyone has been really good about striving to express their own opinions, rather than judging others whose opinions may differ...
yb:
--- Quote from: atz75 on March 25, 2008, 09:00:51 pm ---It's so interesting to see the intensely personal perspectives we're all probably bringing to this question. I think each of our reactions to this particular situation with Jake just has so much to do with all of our own feelings about grief and loss (and also our own personal ideas about how best to respond to grief and loss - both in terms of personal reaction and public etiquette).
This is really such an incredibly intense thing to be going through and working through as a community.
:'(
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This sums up the situation succintly, I think the bold part is especially true here. Each side has their own reasons and logic, not any one side is more true than the other.
myprivatejack:
--- Quote from: nova20194 on March 25, 2008, 08:45:14 pm ---My father passed away less than 24 hours before Heath. I was deeply saddened by both events. Because he was my father, I needed to spend most of the next week dealing with all of the events associated with his passing. This included taking my mother to see him at the nursing home after he passed away, going to the funeral home the next day with my mother and my siblings to make final decisions, as well as attending his funeral and accepting condolences from family and friends. I have very little experience with death or funerals, but I knew it was the right thing to do. We received comments, visits, cards, condolences, tears, smiles, and hugs from family members, old friends, new friends, and strangers as well. With so much love and concern pouring forth from so many different directions, I can't believe that keeping totally private is appropriate. No one was obliged to pay their respects to my father, they just did because it was the right thing to do.
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My condolences for your loss;I've already passed for this situation,so if you need some support or stuff,count on me. :)
I agree with all you say about other people's,specially friends and relatives,behaviour in this case; nobody have obliged to say or do anything,they don't owe you anything,nobody has told them what to do in situations like this...But there's something one must have for oneself,without others persons pressure: RESPECT.
souxi:
Well I voted for; "I think it,s wierd". I think we could go on and on debating this issue forever, but until Jake actually says something, I don,t think we,ll ever know why he hasn,t said anything. I am surprised he hasn,t yes. I think his fans were certainly expecting him too, given that Michelle and Heaths parents said something, not to mention mumerous other famous people. No he doesn,t owe anyone anything and if he really doesn,t want to say anything then he doesn,t have too. I just find it a bit strange though. It could of course simply be that he,s a private person and he prefers to keep his private thoughts about this to himself, who knows. Whatever he,s doing and wherever he is, I hope he,s well and happy. He certainly looks happy in the pictures with Reese.
Fran:
I had posted the following -- in hindsight in the wrong place -- on the Heath Heath Heath thread:
--- Quote from: Fran on March 25, 2008, 03:06:45 pm ---Getting back to Jake's lack of a public statement, well, how difficult is it to release a statement through one's agent or press secretary? Isn't that part of the reason actors have agents and press secretaries?
You know, I wasn't expecting Jake to call a press conference or sit down for a televised interview or release a 16-paragraph eulogy. A simple statement released to the public on the order of "I am deeply saddened by the loss of Heath, and my heart aches for his family and friends. He will be missed" would have been sufficient for me and probably for lots of other people, too.
Yes, Jake is entitled to his privacy, and I'm certainly not expecting him to bear his soul to the public at large. But he should have issued some sort of statement if for no other reason than because his fans were expecting one. They wanted to hear from him. For a good while there, Jake had many of his fans worried about how he was faring after Heath's death. He owed those fans something for their concern.
I interpret his inaction as inconsideration and disrespect -- not toward Heath or his family but towards Jake's own fans. When you're a celebrity, dealing with your fans is part of the package. It's one of the prices you pay for your fame. If you want to live in total obscurity, you don't become an actor.
I can understand why people are disappointed in him.
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I voted for "I am disappointed in Jake...." even though that statement is probably worded too strongly when it comes down to my actual feelings on the matter. I consider myself more of a BBM fan than a Heathen or a Gyllenhaalic, so it's really not my personal disappointment I'm addressing here but that of Jake's fans (and Heath's fans, too) who desperately wanted to hear something from him.
Look at it this way: had Jake issued some little statement, this whole matter would have been over. It wouldn't still be a topic of discussion here at BetterMost... or anywhere else for that matter. Someone -- his agent, a family member, a close friend -- should have pulled him aside and advised him to issue a short statement, even if he didn't want to, because it was the sensible thing to do. In fact, I'm kind of surprised that he didn't see the logic in issuing some sort of statement from the very beginning: Jake issues a statement, the press and fans have what they want, and everyone moves on to other news. As things stand now, you can bet that anyone interviewing him with regard to an upcoming film is going to ask him about Heath and his reaction to news of his death. He's going to have to say something at some point, so it seems to me that all he did was prolong the process, create more intrigue, and upset some members of his fanbase. His not issuing a statement really makes no sense to me.
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