Brokeback Mountain: Our Community's Common Bond > Heath Ledger Remembrance Forum
Poll: Your opinion on Jake's silence
forsythia12:
well, i don't know how i feel. kinda wishy washy i guess. i am a little disappointed, but i don't necessarily agree that he doesn't owe us anything. we are his fan base, and being famous usually means doing things to merely please their fans. think about all the things fandom requires that i'm sure not every actor is paticularly keen on doing, but still do. i just dont' think it would've been that difficult to release something....anything. but i love jake, and i don't think about it much, and i have no disrespect for his grieving. he can do what he wants, and he won't lose me as a fan, but i think i think a lot of people, including myself, desire to know what he's thinking and feeling on the matter. so, sometimes i feel disappointed, but he's his own, and he can do as he sees fit. it's none of my business, but yes, i'd prefer to know what he would say.
i mean he's got to know that people are wondering, and almost every famous person has had do a thing or two to appease fans.
nova20194:
--- Quote from: louise van hine on March 25, 2008, 05:12:16 pm ---.......I have been through the death of close family members and many friends, and have never issued any kind of condolence or statement about them, because I felt it was private and chose to keep those feelings to myself. I also do not attend funerals, and did not attend my father's or my sister's funeral. I suffered a lot of disrespect from people within my family for my choice, and yet I know that it did not reflect my personal feelings, which I chose to keep private.
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My father passed away less than 24 hours before Heath. I was deeply saddened by both events. Because he was my father, I needed to spend most of the next week dealing with all of the events associated with his passing. This included taking my mother to see him at the nursing home after he passed away, going to the funeral home the next day with my mother and my siblings to make final decisions, as well as attending his funeral and accepting condolences from family and friends. I have very little experience with death or funerals, but I knew it was the right thing to do. We received comments, visits, cards, condolences, tears, smiles, and hugs from family members, old friends, new friends, and strangers as well. With so much love and concern pouring forth from so many different directions, I can't believe that keeping totally private is appropriate. No one was obliged to pay their respects to my father, they just did because it was the right thing to do.
forsythia12:
--- Quote from: nova20194 on March 25, 2008, 08:45:14 pm ---My father passed away less than 24 hours before Heath. I was deeply saddened by both events. Because he was my father, I needed to spend most of the next week dealing with all of the events associated with his passing. This included taking my mother to see him at the nursing home after he passed away, going to the funeral home the next day with my mother and my siblings to make final decisions, as well as attending his funeral and accepting condolences from family and friends. I have very little experience with death or funerals, but I knew it was the right thing to do. We received comments, visits, cards, condolences, tears, smiles, and hugs from family members, old friends, new friends, and strangers as well. With so much love and concern pouring forth from so many different directions, I can't believe that keeping totally private is appropriate. No one was obliged to pay their respects to my father, they just did because it was the right thing to do.
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i'm very sorry for your loss. i send my condolences as well.
i also agree with you.
Brown Eyes:
It's so interesting to see the intensely personal perspectives we're all probably bringing to this question. I think each of our reactions to this particular situation with Jake just has so much to do with all of our own feelings about grief and loss (and also our own personal ideas about how best to respond to grief and loss - both in terms of personal reaction and public etiquette).
This is really such an incredibly intense thing to be going through and working through as a community.
:'(
nova20194:
Thanks, Forsythia, for your condolences and support.
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