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Shasta542:
i call this phenomenon "stella-fest" 'cause the kid's name is stella, and she practically comes out all propped up on a princess pillow when she arrives by horse and carriage! lol
:laugh: :laugh: That's so funny!
(But your in-laws should be ashamed to make differences like that in the grandchildren--inexcusable to do that to sweet little kids.)
Is Stella's dad the "chosen one" as well?
forsythia12:
--- Quote from: Shasta542 on March 30, 2008, 09:30:24 pm ---i call this phenomenon "stella-fest" 'cause the kid's name is stella, and she practically comes out all propped up on a princess pillow when she arrives by horse and carriage! lol
:laugh: :laugh: That's so funny!
(But your in-laws should be ashamed to make differences like that in the grandchildren--inexcusable to do that to sweet little kids.)
Is Stella's dad the "chosen one" as well?
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yes.......he is! go figure!
injest:
My sister has three girls with three daddies (yeah ::) ::) ) 18, 13, and 6. For Easter, my sister got a $300 haircut and color and a new outfit; the stepdad got a new suit, shirt and tie; the oldest got a new fancy dress (in addition to a new gown for Prom); the YOUNGEST got TWO new dresses....the middle? Nada. wore blue jeans and a shirt.
>:( >:( >:(
forsythia12:
--- Quote from: injest on March 30, 2008, 10:12:43 pm ---My sister has three girls with three daddies (yeah ::) ::) ) 18, 13, and 6. For Easter, my sister got a $300 haircut and color and a new outfit; the stepdad got a new suit, shirt and tie; the oldest got a new fancy dress (in addition to a new gown for Prom); the YOUNGEST got TWO new dresses....the middle? Nada. wore blue jeans and a shirt.
>:( >:( >:(
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yep. sounds familiar.
why do parents and grandparents do that??????? don't they see how darn obvious it is?
my mom has 8 grandaughters.......and treats them all equally. she's excited about each one of them. no favorites.
my inlaws suck.....
and the shitty thing is, because of my husband's job, we could be transferred anywhere in the country at any given moment...yet, right now, we're only an hour away.....and do you think they take advantage of this good fortune while it lasts? no.
i almost wish for a transfer to the opposite coast, so the next time they see my girls they'll be 18. then maybe they'll regret not taking this opportunity to get to know them.
sounds vindictive, but i'm very pissed about this issue in our family.
delalluvia:
--- Quote from: Katie77 on March 30, 2008, 07:38:40 pm ---While reading about the unrest in the Ledger family, it brings to the realization that there are skeletons or infighting in so many families. Fortunately, most of us can keep these things private, but unfortunately for those in the public eye, they make front page headlines.
So.......this brings me to this new topic......for those who want to discuss or write about their own family situations and squabbles. Are any of us immune to them?....why does it happen?.......and how do they get resolved?
To start with I will briefly tell you about my most recent one....
We live in the same town as my my husbands mother (my MIL), and my husbands sister (my SIL).
About 18 months ago my SIL stopped talking to her mother (MIL), stopped going around to visit her even though she lived only five minutes from her. Because the MIL is 81 years old, my husband took exeption to his sister being so nasty and unreasonable, and ended up having an argument with her, and so she stopped talking to my husband as well.
Then about 8 months ago, the sister just turned up on the MIL's doorstep, no words of apology, or reason why she had ignored her mother for ten months, and ever since has kept up a reasonable relationship with her. The MIL accepted her return without any questions or animosity.
My husband is pleased that at least his mother now has the contact with her daughter, and has no problem with them having a nice relationship.
BUT.....the SIL still refuses to talk to my husband......it sure doesn't make for "happy families" situation.
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Not sure. Usually family squabbles come from one or more parties being unreasonable and/or vindictive because their expectations were not met by other members of their families and other family members are unable or unwilling to confront the other members of the family. Not sure such things can be eradicated because people can be emotional and ridiculous and self-absorbed.
A friend of my sister's is about to be married next weekend; a car wreck waiting to happen as they're still going to couple's counseling and trying to deal with their cultural differences. Both own their own houses. The friend owns a bigger, nicer home.
Currently, with the wedding this close, the friend is seriously stressed from having had to plan the entire wedding herself with little help from her family or fiance. A few days ago, out of the blue, her fiance told her that he had invited his parents and family who are flying in from the old country to stay with her because "she has the bigger house". Without first asking her.
His parents mailed her a check saying "Here's the money we would have spent on a hotel."
The friend is absolutely flabbergasted that her fiance has saddled her with a house full of company that she now has to provide for and entertain on top of everything else. She has no support from him, because he invited them, they're his family! He can't uninvite them from his future wife's home!
This is one of those situations. Expectations unmet and unreasonable demands.
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