Hi there, David,
Like Kelda, I also saw your post in Fiona's blog, and I wanted to let you know I'm thinking of you. You are a strong man, and I admire you for caring for your parents, now your father. I hope he is OK after the fall? It is the right thing to do, and the respectful thing. You will never regret it.
I hope you know that if you ever want to talk, I am here for you. I have some idea of what you're dealing with. Although I haven't lost a parent, I'm still managing Mom's day-to-day care remotely. I'm blessed because she has been in relatively good health for three years, allowing me a break of sorts. I know it won't last, but for now, all is stable.
You know what I miss? Helping Mom with her baths. They were always a complete ordeal - she wasn't dirty, she'd just had one, yada yada...We'd have the electric space heater on full blast because she is so cold natured. I'd just get naked and get in the tub with her (she was on a shower chair) because the whole bathroom would get wet and I'd be dripping with water and sweat anyhow. She would fuss the entire time...I was going to freeze her to death...Why are you taking so long...I could have your grandmother in and out in five minutes. Then I'd put conditioner in her hair - shampoo was sufficient, damn me all to hell! And finally I would get her out, dry her off, lotion lots of places and powder others....dry her hair, get her back in warm clothes. And she would give me a hug and tell me thank you.
Parents.
Love,
Lynne