I don't know. I have a bad experience coming from a broken home. I guess I would put this on a timeline. Times change. People change. What is illegal today may be legal next year, or the next..
It IS a denial of people's rights to file joint income taxes and receive the benefits from that for sure. But I wouldn't call that 'gay-bashing' - rather a generation that has had to deal with more social change than has ever happened in the past. My mom worked in a Truck Stop as a cook. When African Americans would come in, they were to ask, "What would like to go? And seating was denied them. Things were much worse in Southern States, I'm talking about Northern Illinois. Something like that would be unthinkable and yet that was in the early 1960s.
Things you ask are good. Slow down and enjoy the moment. And be thankful for how far we have come.
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