Thank you for posting that interesting information, David. I remember once reading something about gays in pre-Christian Native American societies being considered spiritual link entities. Forgive me if I've got this wrong along the way, but is it true that they were often the tribal "Medicine Man"? It is my understanding that gay men within many indigenous societies around the world take on a spiritual role within their communities - as shaman, for instance. David, I would be very interested, indeed, to read more about this fascinating subject. Kindly post the links publicly either here or at a new thread. I'm sure others here at BetterMost would be interested to read about this. You must be so very proud of your wonderful heritage, David. And I can tell how much you love your dear mother. I know very well what you are going through right now. Though it has been three years since she passed away, you still have some time to go yet, before you emerge from the dark cloud of mourning. I'm guessing you were probably 41 when you lost your Mum? My mother also died when I was 41, and can I tell you something? I still miss her every day. We were very close. She was the first person I ever told I was gay and she only gave me unconditional love in return. She was always my best friend. The cliche about time healing all wounds is correct. The edge goes off the grief, in time. And what you're left with is their love. My Mum is always with me. Always will be. I firmly believe that.
You are correct Kerry! Absolutely correct. They were given many spiritual roles in the tribe. Quite often they named the new babies, and young men would consult with a wink'te just after a vision quest. Gay men sometimes went into battle too, although they rarely actually did any fighting. Gay men were considered "lucky" (for lack of a better word) because they had such a close union with God. The warriors always protected the wink'te during any battles and made sure nothing happened to him. Crazy Horse often brought the tribal wink'te along during battles.
The local Native American group I belong to in Indianapolis recognizes me as wink'te, and I am in charge of naming new members. It's quite an honor for me. Like I said, there is a renewed interest in returning to the old ways, and many Native Americans are starting to view homosexuals like our ancestors did 150 or more years ago.
I sure will post those links! I will post them within the next day or two for you, okay?
Yes, I miss my Mother very much. She taught me many things about my Sioux heritage. I'm still learning though. There is a lot to learn!
I sure am sorry to hear about your Mother's death Kerry.