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Dealing With the Brokeback Non-Believers
YaadPyar:
I don't think this movie universally appeals to any particular group - gay men or straight women or astronauts or immigrant farm workers...it appeals on the level of some internal emotional recognition. Folks who don't have the receptors for it just don't, and belonging to any particular cultural, sexual, religious, etc., group doesn't make that happen.
I remember seeing Terms of Endearment, and listening to audience members sobbing at the story, and all I could think was "what a bunch of emotionally manipulative crap this is!" There's no circumstance under which I would have felt differently - I don't have the right receptors to appreciate that filmic experience. And lots of people don't have it for BBM.
The people who think it's slow and boring aren't just being contrary - they really do think that. I can think of many lauded films I feel that way about (you don't even want to hear my list). No friend, no matter how sincerely intentioned, would change that. Even if I understood why they liked it, I still wouldn't feel what they felt.
BBM is a touchstone for me, but I just can't assume being gay or anything else, means you 'get it'. Maybe it's most important to live the message of BBM, instead of convincing others to watch it or arguing about their understanding. And then our friends will get the message of hope and redemption and healing and love and whatever else we felt through us, even if they don't get it from the movie.
twistedude:
Lately, I just get mad...I know, I shouldn't.
"Is there a fuckin' problem with that?"
ednbarby:
Ooh, Julie. Love the still shot. And I react the same way. I say, "If you wanna keep livin' your ignorant fuckin' life, you go right ahead." OK, mostly I just think that. But it still makes me feel better.
sparkle_motion:
I have a rather odd experience. A coworker of mine is racist, homophobic, etc. I finally convinced her to see Brokeback. She saw it, loved it, cried. For about a week after that, she said she "loves gay people! and they should definitely be allowed to marry", etc. Now, a month later, she is back to her old ways...making derogatory comments about homosexuals and such. It's very weird and very frustrating (I can't stop myself from arguing with her every time she does it.)
It seems she lost/forgot the lesson that Brokeback taught her.
YaadPyar:
Julie -
I'm so impressed with your graphics talent. You always talk about technological challenges, so I'm even more impressed that you keep finding and posting these great pics!
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