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What am I supposed to do when I know it's going to tear me up?
Artiste:
Lee: Guilt is mainly a waste of time as said, indeed, when you did nothing wrong!!
But I feel something like guilt at times for not having been married and for not having a child or children,
and I know that I did my very best to make myself happy and to create that happiness to with others
!! So, I feel that you are lucky in many wondrous ways!!
You will be more and more happy, that is the aim for you and for everyone!!
You will get that, as you are starting to create happiness, by working at it!!
Always glad to get your news Lee,
Hugs!!
Br. Patrick:
No one has mentioned the incredibly intimate non-sexual love a gay guy can have with a WOMAN. I won't say it, but they used to call them FH's. Sadly, I lost my girlFriend of 9 years when I took her to see BBM last year on January 26. I know this hit on unresolved issues in her marriage because I knew her so well. This Easter she sent me an Internet Easter Greeting Card. I replied that I was just about in the same place I was when we were last together. Then I gave her the URL for this thread. She never wrote back.
For some reason this is typical for me. I have these really close intimate non-sexual relationships with women and then they end abruptly. It's been that way since High School. In many ways, Lynne Steele has been a really special friend as she drew me out kicking and screaming from my Loner status. Then she introduced me to the wonderful people here on Bettermost. The weird thing is we both registered on the same date, me about 5 hours before she did. She is a WONDERFUL person as is Milli, the artist who does the incredible fan-art. I've developed cyber-relationships with these women that are about as close to the real thing as it is possible. Don't know how I would be if I never had met them!
Bottom line: GirlFriends are one of the best things about being gay!
Peace :D
br. patrick
Artiste:
Sure Br. Patick, a lady friend is great!
So is a straight and/or a gay man too!!
If you are a gay man, it is posible to have a great gay pal too!!
Even some...
hugs!
Br. Patrick:
I've had one BIG change that all of you helped me with. I used to think my Epitaph was REGRET. I would only remember things about my past that fired up this pathological (in me) feeling called REGRET. But I am making progress. My feelings toward my past have changed...
My new Epitaph is "I SURVIVED"
All of you helped me get to this milestone and I thank you all for your caring support!
hugs~
br. patrick ;)
And! My GirlFriend of 10 years and I have had a reunion. We both are astonished that we ever broke up! But it wasn't her fault, it was mine. I went into months of complete isolation after we broke up. Then along came Lynne Steele and the rest pulling me out of my pit and into the light of caring people.
Indeed, Brokeback got me good! and it sure ain't over...
Br. Patrick:
--- Quote from: merr7242 on July 02, 2007, 07:23:28 pm ---BTW, I am a 65 y/o straight woman with 2 children and a grandchild. It affected me like no other movie I have ever seen. I have been analyzing that emotion for a long time but I think it is regret and loss - which is a universal experience.
Merrily
--- End quote ---
Your homespun attributes are just like so many people here. There are quite a few 'Grandmothers' and Bettermost has been made a better place because of their presence. Thanks for responding. Your words have comforted me.
Hugs~ :)
br. patrick
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