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Re: Dealing With Aging Parents
« Reply #100 on: August 04, 2008, 05:40:42 pm »
More news anyone, how to deal with age... ?

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Re: Dealing With Aging Parents
« Reply #101 on: August 10, 2008, 07:18:01 pm »
It puzzles me since this does not seem to be a daily subject for many !!

  Dealing With Aging Parents ... surely is important?

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Probably because we're mostly doing it and just not writing about it much.

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Re: Dealing With Aging Parents
« Reply #102 on: August 12, 2008, 05:38:23 pm »
Yes, how are you getting on with things Della?
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Re: Dealing With Aging Parents
« Reply #103 on: August 13, 2008, 12:25:33 am »
Yes, how are you getting on with things Della?

It's difficult, but we're taking it one day at a time and trying to make them positive days.

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Re: Dealing With Aging Parents
« Reply #104 on: August 13, 2008, 01:18:10 am »
It's difficult, but we're taking it one day at a time and trying to make them positive days.

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Re: Dealing With Aging Parents
« Reply #105 on: August 13, 2008, 03:36:24 pm »
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Re: Dealing With Aging Parents
« Reply #106 on: August 13, 2008, 10:34:29 pm »

Thanks, y'all.  Means a lot.

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Re: Dealing With Aging Parents
« Reply #107 on: August 16, 2008, 10:00:47 am »
More news about aging parents?

How can we help?

And be helped too?

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Re: Dealing With Aging Parents
« Reply #108 on: August 12, 2009, 01:28:53 pm »
My mom's last CAT scan came back bad.  Her medication is no longer working.  The mass in her chest is growing again.

The problem is that her oncologist has given up.  They don't want to try a new medication, they don't want to tweak her dosage.  They just pulled her off the meds and basically said 'Go home and die comfortably."

They have this "quality of life" philosophy in that they will do nothing that will make a patient's remaining life miserable.

I mean, I can understand that, but that kinda flies in the face of someone who isn't willing to give up, you know?

My mom's doctor said she was "in denial", but she isn't.  She's just not ready to give up which is what her doctors have.

Mother wants a 2nd opinion and a new CAT scan.

She had all the family gather, we're still not sure why, to tell us this info.  It's not really news.  Mom has been terminal for over a year now, and she is obviously in decline and all her treatments have been doing is buying her time.  But she has a very strong will to live.  The CAT scan before this had showed her cancer had not grown nor spread anymore and I was ecstatic at the news.

She was upset and disappointed.  My sister had wondered what she was expecting.  And all I could say is that she was upset because she wanted signs that she was being cured - going back into remission.

Even at her age and condition and situation, she still prays to her god to be cured (which I find very sad) and is hopeful to find a new treatment, especially to spite her oncologists, who, one after another, have given up on her.

So I'm scrambling, trying to find another doctor.  Some doctors are so rude.  One offered to give a 2nd opinion, but would not talk to my mother face to face about any results.  Apparently it's too much trouble and they're too busy.  >:(

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Re: Dealing With Aging Parents
« Reply #109 on: August 12, 2009, 02:02:21 pm »
oh del.. I wish you all the best.  :-\
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