Katie77,
that's the thing isn't it? i remember Oprah W said on her interview with the cast, that there is no streotype.
i meant, the way i see it, sometimes Jack acted "masculin" as in the above example, he was also the one who was more aggresive in this relation ship. did the driving, the contacting, the "proposals"...
but in the other way we can also see Ennis performed his manly jobs, (shot down the elk if that counts, that counts in my place though...girsl can't shoot here), doing little things what a man would do for his loved one.
they are simply complementary to each other, fulfiling each other's need.
i hope many relations can be at their level of loving.