KatieMaybe the fact is we just dont like the guy, maybe he is so presumptuous that everything he does is so correct, that we dont like that about him, and we were glad that in a moment of weakness (or however you like to describe it), he jumped on a couch and made a complete fool of himself, and so damaged his self rightious, always right, always in control image.
You put your finger right on it. Tom has long been in charge of his own money, his own career and his own life and he’s been entirely successful at it. With that success came fame, money and power. However, not everyone reacts well to having too much success. Tom is a case in point. He had run-ins with Steven Spielberg, another man long in charge of his own money, very successful career and life. Is it any wonder he had issues with the man? Irresistable force Tom meeting immovable object Spielberg.
Tom is an artiste, well known as taking his acting as a serious art form, requiring devotion to his craft. I remember reading Mimi Rogers saying Tom once thought of giving up sex to ‘rechannel’ his sexual energy into acting. I also read something about how he experimented on an underwater scene, considering how the bubbles should look like coming out of his left and right nostrils.
That’s a man who’s detail-oriented to the point of being obsessively anal.
I am not surprised this kind of obsessive, detail-oriented control extends to the man’s personal life. Where is Suri? I’m sure Katie would like to take her out strolling in the park like a normal person. I’m sure Suri’s grandparents would love to have the kid for the weekend, take her to church and show off the grandchild to their friends and neighbors.
Do you see that happening while Tom is calling the shots?
The problem comes in when Tom – like Michael Jackson – being so successful in life, no longer listens to any advice other than his own. He is the final word, the decision maker in his own life. He’s made a success of that, why should he listen to others? So if Tom decides to read up on psychiatry, he’ll go about in an obsessive way, form his own opinion and decide he’s right. No one else can counter his position without him thinking they don’t know what they’re talking about. They’re just being ‘glib’. Tom has made his decision. No one else is right. And because Tom – like Michael Jackson - is surrounded by people who depend on him for their livelihood, no one is going to disagree with him either. So Tom will do whatever he wants to do because Tom wants to do it, no matter how bizarre it might seem to others or how it might reflect on him. Other opinions don’t matter, only his because he is King of the World.
GiancarloDon't think I'm excusing their behavior. Tom had a lot of the spot light on him too... and it puts out a negative image.
In fact I'm insulted you think that I'm excusing their behavior.
Well don’t be. I was merely countering your statement that Tom’s behavior was ‘outrageous’ and must have had something to do with the breakup with Paramount. I merely pointed out that Tom’s behavior compared to other actors' behavior seems a bit tame in comparison. I didn’t say that you were excusing the others. The Huffington article
Vickie posted really brings this point home.
SheyneSO glad to see you back girlfriend.
think what makes it more outrageous than Downey, Ryder, Sizemore or Heche is that NONE of them did what they did to be a media-whore and grab the attention Cruise was obviously after. I've always been suspicious - why would some privacy-nut like Tom Cruise be SO keen to publicise this romance if it was genuine? He protected Nicole and his kids with a fervor that was bordering on scary. I've felt the whole TomKat thing was just cooked up to offset the gay rumours that have plagued him. And now they roped some young and overly-ambitious starlet in and worse, brought a child into it. Now THAT'S outrageous
Tom is a media-whore. But that’s the name of the game isn’t it? Playing the media to keep yourself in the headlines, keep yourself in the public eye, keep yourself in demand? Media whores are the most successful public figures out there. They know how to play the media and the public. While I feel exactly the same way about the Katie thing as you, the truth is, she’s pushing 30 years old. She isn’t a Lindsey Lohan ingénue. She’s a grown woman and if she didn’t know what she was doing, getting roped in by a Svengali, blinded by the Tom Cruise posters of her childhood with stars in her eyes, then she has no one to blame but herself. She had her family there, disapproving of Tom from the beginning. Sad to say, she’s made her bed and now she has to deal with it. As for the whys…first thought was that the guy was going through a mid-life crisis. Men do strange things during that time of life. They run off to Tahiti, buy Ferarris, have affairs with young things. [shrugs] Who knows?
