I have just realized this and I have been thinking about it all day, so I decided that I will just write about it here. It is personal, but it also made me find another message of BBM.
I cannot believe that it took me a month of watching BBM to realize that I had my own sort of platonic version in my life when I was their age.
When I was 20 I got a job a a craft counselor in a summer camp in the mountains (NY that is) I was going through a lot at that point, I had just broken up with a long time boyfriend and my career and education plans took a sudden detour.
Well at that camp everyone was really rich and snobby, but on the first day I met a girl who was working in the office. She was 17 but we instantly became best friends. It started of because of music, (punk and new wave) but we ending up spending all our free time together. It was never physical, we always talked about boys, but we did spend every minute together possible. In fact we talked about everything, but my best memory was we would lie on the docks on the lake, and use two headphones and one walkman and just listen to music together for hours.
I ended up leaving camp early cause well because of about a lot of things, but in September we got together again in the city and for the whole next year we talked for hours on the phone every day and spent every single Saturday together, usually walking around the city.
I moved away after that, and we stayed close for a while but then we just drifted apart. The last time we got together was about ten years later, we had almost nothing in common except the memories, and I was shocked to find out that the person who I so much time with hanging out in the villiage (Greenwich) became a right wing republican
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Anyway I guess the point is when I look back on it, it was like Ennis and Jack, even though there never was anything physical, it was just so intense for that year.
Unfortunately I have been very much like Ennis the past few years, (a loner) so one of the things BBM has taught me is that I must make connections with people.
But what I am wondering is, is that type of true connection only possible when you are 19 and 20 before the real world really sets in? or is it still possible later?
And it terms of BBM I realized that they do in fact spend the whole time trying to recreate what they had that magical summer. At first it worked (the reunion) but then it got harder and harder to. And is that the true sad thing, that this type of intense connection is only possible at 19, and no matter how much you would like to you cannot have it with the same person, or anyone else ever again?
Is that the true problem with Jack and Ennis, they just were never again 19 on the mountain?
I hope that I am wrong, at least in real life and I hope it is possible to have such a friendship no matter how old you are.
I can't believe I wrote this all and I am shy about posting it, but here goes.