Wow, what a great threat. Very insightful thoughts by everyone.
It's somehow confusing: on the one hand, story Ennis
seems much more aware about his feelings towards Jack, he is able to verbally express himself better (esp. motel scene), he answers Jack's "miss you so much" directly with pulling him close - in short: I don't think story Ennis needs 20 years to become aware what he has in Jack, what they do have together (a relationship, LOVE) and therefore, that he is in fact, queer. I think for story Ennis this is relatively clear at the reunion, latest. He can't act on this feelings because of the circumsatances, because he fears the reactions of society.
On the other hand, I think Katherine is right with the scene of Ennis's breakdown in the alley: story Ennis needs a year to figure out WHY he had those gut cramps, but from the movie I do have the feeling, movie Ennis
knows what is happening and why.
This leads me to the question: how much is movie Ennis in denial for those 20 years? I've seen many posts on IMDB and here, where people stated that Ennis is completely in denial about their relationship ("this thing") for the whole time and some even think, Ennis starts changing not until after Jack's death.
I can't share this POV. I think, movie Ennis
knows, but is even more scared than story Ennis. Katherine puts it this way and I can't express it in a better way, so I simply quote her:
-- but paradoxically more uptight about expressing them, due to his damaged childhood and internalized homophobia.
Bottom line: I believe both, movie Ennis and story Ennis, are aware about their relationship with Jack (that it is love what they do have together), but movie Ennis is even less able to express it, let alone to live it out, than story Ennis is.
Does that make any sense now? Anyway, that's how the thoughts came floating through my mind and I'll just post it.
...still confused...