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*Slightly* OT Confessions: How Much is TOO MUCH Before You'd QUIT Someone?
chefjudy:
well my story is sad, but long past, so I neither dwell on it or carry any baggage - after all how much excessive drinking, physical, sexual and mental abuse, not to mention whoring around can the average person withstand? I made it for 10 years and three children but I literally got to the point where the pain no longer was an issue - survival was. I had gone through so much including a miscarriage at the same time that he was paying for an abortion for his psycho girl friend and I listened to his lies about love but I made the effort to get away and I did. It took a few years but I finished college, worked in both the food industry and doing accounting, and raised the kids. Now when I do take the time to reflect, I wonder how I did it. But I do not bear hard feelings or bitterness and the kids turned out ok - they are close to both of us. It is he who will have nothing to do with me now - I know we will never be friends, but I thought after our youngest daughter's wedding a couple of years ago and he actually spoke to me after 20 years that maybe, we could at least be cordial. But it is not to be - the irony of all this: his health has really suffered after all the drinking which caused adult onset diabetes and all of its complications like poor/failing eyesight, extremely bad circulation to the point he can hardly walk, joint problems and he's very obese now. If there is karma, he is now getting what he deserved. He is bitter and angry because of all the health issues, and believe it or not there is a part of me that feels sorry for him - just a little.
How much is too much - depends on who you ask and what they have endured. In my case, many years ago I made a bad choice and had to live with that. Hindsight says I wouldn't make that same choice if presented now, but how I wish I was that naive 20 year old again............. :)
Chanterais:
* Adriana searches in vain for the right words. Proffers just-popped popcorn to Judy. Pats Judy gently on the shoulder in a gesture of sympathy and solidarity. Crunches.*
Ray:
These are very honest stories and I admire each one for the up note they finish on. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger as we're told.
JennyC:
--- Quote from: Ray on April 26, 2006, 09:54:56 pm ---I admire each one for the up note they finish on. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger as we're told.
--- End quote ---
Ditto, what Ray said. I don't have a story to tell on this subject. Hope you are in good a relationship now and made peace with the past.
rtprod:
I had no idea how candid everyone would be when I began this thread. I've just returned and would like to read more here before saying much else, but I am so proud to have all of you, whom I really like so much, tell these stories.
Just an awesome testament to how much there is between the group. Amazing, hats off to everyone.
rt
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