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moremojo:
Lots of interesting, wise comments here. I'm in agreement regarding the issue of coupledom--this kind of relationship is not necessary for a rich, fulfilling life, and in fact some of the world's unhappiest people are those entrenched in relationships because they simply fear being alone or are staying together due to social pressure or coercion. We are all the inheritors of thousands of years of tradition in which marriage or cohabitation has been instilled as an unassailable ideal or an unavoidable fate, and even though recent decades in the Western world have opened up new possibilities for us all, we still grapple with this often problematic cultural legacy.
It's interesting to reflect on how many figures who are regarded as spiritual or religious heroes have not followed the path of coupledom. The Buddha even abandoned his family to pursue enlightenment, and think of the contemplative monks and nuns who have renounced the pleasures of the flesh in striving to become closer to their God. There are exceptions of course, and I don't think companionship or sexuality are at all antithetical to the spiritual life, but there does seem to be a suggestion in these many examples that social expectation all too often impedes spiritual growth.
I have come to believe that before we can prove a worthy lover/companion to someone else, we must first become lover and best friend to ourselves. In my own life, I have found this challenging, often seeking in others the qualities I feel I lack in myself. While I think it is natural to seek one's complement in the other, the feeling that we are incomplete without the other is the fatal illusion that can kill or render unhealthy many relationships, and which causes much of the suffering that accrues when a relationship does end.
KristinDaBomb:
I'm single, but I'm 18 and still in school so my parents pay for the groceries lol.
notBastet:
That is nice!!
I still enjoy when I visit my parents and they cook for me! I wish they came to see me more often, as they will typically cook and shop for me then, as well!
Brown Eyes:
CONGRATS ON 1000 POSTS NOTBASTET!!!
notBastet:
hahahahaha,
Thank you, thank you, thank you...
I am too busy at work to celebrate adequately - maybe this weekend...
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