So I have to admit that the aspect of me being in a different time and place does change things. Which is why I deleted what I originally said to re-write what I feel as me in the here and now. I was going to delete this topic of mine all together. But realised I can't. So like I said, I'll just put how I feel in the here and now.
Yes I will admit that I'd be hurt. But I also know that you can't really change a person's natural inclinations towards one gender or the other. So as much as I would be hurt. There really would be no competition. As I couldn't give him what he needs from a man. However, I could be biased feeling that way as A) I can't really get angry at things like this, just hurt or so I like to think. B) I could have gotten into a relationship with a man myself, but as I sort of knew I was highly likely gay myself, I said no. I told him that I didn't want to be responsible for breaking his heart when it was confirmed to me that I am gay. So I will also admit that was I heterosexual then I possibly would be angry. But then looking at it from the point of view of a woman leaving me for a man. Well, yes, I can see how I could be angry.
I guess the bottom line is there are too many situations, circumstances, ways something could happen, results, reactions, chain reactions, chain results to know what one could do, would do or how they would react. I could only really say how I would ideally like to act when I think about it. But If I was in the situation, I doubt that is how I'd react.
To JudgeHolden, no disrespect taken. I fully realise each and every day that the more I read and the more I listen to people the more I still have to learn about more of life and her tricks of both mind and body and also the more I realise that a lot of it doesn't really make any sense.
Which tends to make me feel completely idiotic and dumb (and I feel like that way too often, even including now). But, I console myself from that with thinking that someone who is idiotic and dumb (I hope this doesn't make me sound self-absorbed, that is the last thing I want) possibly often isn't always willing to learn from others or by reading or researching. I however, am more then willing to learn from others, read and research, more then I need to if I feel what I have found is not adequate.
Sincerely, Kat.