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If you found out your Dad had an affair with another man ...
Nicole:
--- Quote from: henrypie on April 05, 2006, 01:32:28 am ---By the way, speaking of vivid dreams, I had a dream I haven't been able to bring myself to tell anyone about... not that I especially need to... but you guys, last night I dreamt about one of you. I'm too weirded out by it to say who. I dragged one of you out of a lake on a little dinghy and attempted mouth-to-mouth breathing, pushing on the chest, hearing water in the lungs. It was very scary, in fact. Okay, and here's where it lines up with the essence of Henrypie: I managed to resussitate the nearly-drowned person, and with huge happiness and relief brought the person into my home (which wasn't my home at all), only to find that the person, while active and healthy, had turned into a cat.
This happened once before: about 15 years ago I dreamt I was making out with Kirstie Alley -- she was wearing a blue dress of mine, and she was lying on a hospital gurney -- and as I was kissing her, she turned into a cat.
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Maybe you're psychic and this dream means something. The first one was about Kirstie Alley, so maybe the person you dreamt about is soon going to become a self-loathing scientologist? Everybody on the board - steer clear of the celebrity center!! If someone asks you if you want to have an auditing session, run! :D
Regarding the question, I would be really sad for both of my parents. My mom for being married to someone who was living a lie and cheating on her. And my dad for feeling the need to hide who he was and not being able to live freely in the open. I would want them to split up immediately and get on with their respective lives. I would harbour resentment towards my dad, but I have to admit, not as much as if he cheated with a woman. To me, if a man cheats on his wife with a man, it's because he's gay. If he cheats on his wife with a woman, it's because he's an asshole.
henrypie:
Theoretically his gayness could be masking his assholism.
dmmb_Mandy:
Aww, henrypie, c'mon you gotta tell us who it is!? ;)
I was also an Alma Jr., in a way. My dad had an affair years ago (before I was born) and it continued for a very long time. About 5 years ago, my dad finally told our whole family that I had a sister!!! I was 17, and I was shocked! My mother didn't even know. I grew up with three older brothers and I always wanted a sister, and I didn't realize that I actually had one and she lived in my same province! I met her soon afterwards and it was so strange. This whole new person that was a part of my family, a part of me. I could never really love her as a sister, though, knowing that she was created out of betrayal. But I accepted her into our family & I treat her well. I love her more as a friend. The hardest part was dealing with my mother, she fell apart. My mother is an amazing person, and I was the only one she ran to during all of it, so that wore me out, but I'm glad as hell that I was there for her. They're still together now (my mother & father), but there's no love, just living. She says "what's the point of leaving? Where would I go? What would I do? I don't work."
I hope to myself everyday that I don't turn out like that. I want to be full of passion & love 'til the day I die.
I will always love my father; he's my father afterall. But I will never fully respect him again. He will never be that king that he once was to me; that quiet, godlike man who used to bring us home pizza on Saturday nights and who taught me to drive skidoo.
*getting a little too dramatic*
If my father turned out to be gay, though, like Nicole I would be very sad for both of my parents. I would want them to part and live separate, (hopefully) happy lives and be who they really are. Concealing yourself and who you really are is never healthy.
delalluvia:
--- Quote from: dmmb_Mandy on April 05, 2006, 02:21:42 am ---Aww, henrypie, c'mon you gotta tell us who it is!?
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No kidding! With a dream like that?!?! All my dreams of us are about being invaded by trolls - I've had it twice in two nights. :P There's that stress syndrome thing kicking in.
--- Quote ---I was also an Alma Jr., in a way. My dad had an affair years ago (before I was born) and it continued for a very long time. About 5 years ago, my dad finally told our whole family that I had a sister!!! I was 17, and I was shocked! My mother didn't even know. I grew up with three older brothers and I always wanted a sister, and I didn't realize that I actually had one and she lived in my same province!
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[nods] Yep, same here Mandy. I,too, have a half-sister. She lives in another country which will give you the scope of my father's wanderings. Never met her, never will. Not sure how much she knows though. Her mother married and for all I know her mother never mentioned us to her.
Regardless, I thought we'd hear from her when my father died. We didn't.
moremojo:
This is an interesting topic for me, since I now know, in my adulthood, that my father has had at least one sexual encounter with another man. My mother told me some time ago, having herself learned this information from my father. Now, this is a little weird considering that my father has been fairly homophobic all the time I've known him, at least in regards to me...not violently so, but the subject definitely makes him uncomfortable, to the point where he simply won't discuss it. My mother has characterized my dad as bisexual, but in a repressed way, so that he has for the most part only allowed himself to become intimate with women. Except for that one occasion, which was a furtive, anonymous, and opportunistic affair. And my dad doesn't even know that I know about it.
In all honesty, I would actually be thrilled to see my father establish a healthy, enduring romantic relationship with anyone, regardless of gender (he and my mom are divorced now).
Scott
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