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Re: Do you forgive or do you hold a grudge?
« Reply #30 on: October 21, 2007, 07:58:35 pm »
I forgive and forget!  You have to let things go or they will slowly eat you alive.  The other person has forgotten all about it and you're left stewing in your own juices.

Get angry ..... rant and rave ..... sulk for a bit ... then let be ..

Susie 


Hiya Susie!  I have to say, I agree with you.

I think a lot of times, when we hold a grudge, the one we are holding a grudge against is just going about their life, not even thinking about it, so why give them that power?


Tell him when l come up to him and ask to play the record, l'm gonna say: ''Voulez-vous jouer ce disque?''
'Voulez-vous, will you kiss my dick?'
Will you play my record? One-track mind!

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Re: Do you forgive or do you hold a grudge?
« Reply #31 on: October 21, 2007, 09:46:04 pm »
I forgive and forget!  You have to let things go or they will slowly eat you alive.  The other person has forgotten all about it and you're left stewing in your own juices.

Get angry ..... rant and rave ..... sulk for a bit ... then let be ..

Susie 

What?  And let them get away with it?  Much much better to keep their shitty behavior alive in the rounds of talks and friends so any one you know that might meet them in the future will know what a shit they can be.   ;D ;D

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Re: Do you forgive or do you hold a grudge?
« Reply #32 on: October 21, 2007, 10:47:24 pm »
Don't be so hard on yourself Jess, it isn't bad Karma nor does it lower you to their level to expect nor enjoy the fact that they will get what's coming to them.  YOU did nothing wrong.

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Re: Do you forgive or do you hold a grudge?
« Reply #33 on: October 22, 2007, 03:42:20 pm »
Holding on to grudges and hate only hurts you.
My Granny used to say that hate only destroys the vessel that carrys it!
"The biggest obstacle to most of us achieving our dreams isn't reality, it's our own fear"

"Saint Paul had his Epiphany on the road to Damascus, Mine was on Brokeback Mountain"

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Re: Do you forgive or do you hold a grudge?
« Reply #34 on: October 22, 2007, 07:04:28 pm »
Holding on to grudges and hate only hurts you.
My Granny used to say that hate only destroys the vessel that carrys it!

Sure, if you let it eat you up.  If you can control it - like you do love (remembering an old love takes no more energy than remembering an old someone who hurt you). - then it's no problem whatsoever.

No matter how many old wives say otherwise.  ;)

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Re: Do you forgive or do you hold a grudge?
« Reply #35 on: October 24, 2007, 02:27:12 am »
The preacher's Sunday sermon was Forgive Your Enemies.
He asked, "How many of you have forgiven your enemies?"
About half held up their hands.

He repeated the question.
Now about 80% held up their hands.


He then repeated his
question again. All responded,
except one elderly lady.

"Mrs Jones, are you not willing to forgive your enemies?"
asked the preacher.

"I don't have any," she replied.

"Mrs Jones, that is very unusual. How old are you?"

"Ninety- three," she replied.

"Mrs Jones, please come down in front and tell the
congregation how a person cannot have an enemy
in the world." asked the preacher.

The little sweetheart of a lady tottered down the aisle, and
said, "It's easy, I just outlived all those bitches."
Life is not a dress rehearsal