We have some abrupt and opinionated folks around here who often speak their mind in a blunt manner without thinking about how it sounds to others. If we expect to be treated with respect than we must give respect as well.
I think you're right, Dottie, that some folks are opinionated, say things bluntly, and don't realize how their words may be read. I agree, when writing about heated controversial topics -- and let's see now, in the past few days I've been involved in discussions here of circumcision, abortion, the death penalty, and whether almost all straight people are homophobic -- it pays to be very, very careful. And people aren't always careful but, in many cases, I don't think there is an intention to offend or show disrespect.
The words that, as I understand it, are in question in this case, I did not take personally, even though they were used by someone expressing an opinion opposite my own.
That's just MY 2 cents.