Del, you and I are definitely of one mind on this one.  I keep remembering how you said a while back about this, "I know Jake is good for her.  I just don't know if she is good for Jake."
Why do I feel so protective of him?  And not just the garden-variety level of protective, but fiercely so?  How is that my right or my place?  And I'm not even obsessed with him 24/7 like I used to be. Yes, it's true - I can now go entire days at a time in which I forget he even exists on this planet.
I'm not one of those chicks who gets all broken-hearted when my totally unattainable in every way crush actually finds a steady partner - in fact, I'm glad to see them happy.  What are they supposed to do - be celibate their whole lives because they haven't found that one true love which is me?  But I do not like to see them get jerked around.  And I can't shake this feeling that that's what's happening here.  Been there myself and know just how exquisitely that sucks.