I have wondered a lot lately about the "urge to couple" or lack thereof...
Is it cultural, instinctual, societal?
Up until now, I have spent the last twelve years of my life (I am 30) either being 'with someone' or plotting, hoping, wishing to be with someone.
I also think of myself as a rather driven and independent person. When going through my recent break-up, one of the things I looked forward to was not having the burden of another person. Now, I realize that the fact that my relationship was a 'burden' is a problem in and of itself... But I did question whether it was selfish or weird of me to not have an immediate desire to be with another person...
But I think probably, that as our culture changes/evolves we can survive without coupledom. There are ways to have and maintain relationships that help make us whole, without entering coupledom. Not that there is anything wrong with coupledom. I just don't think it has to be one's life goal... And for me, growing up, while coupledom wasn't the only goal I felt I should have, it definitely felt like it should have been included in the list of goals. I don't really feel that way right now.