I think Annie is upset with the situation and maybe herself perhaps.
She wrote this story with "open spaces" in it, for the "readers to bring their own experiences to it" and to "finish the story themselves".
It seems that *some* of the interpretations of the story and/or movie that some folks have shared with her are not to her liking. But who's fault is that? She deliberately left it open for interpretation!
Where was she when the movie came out? She refused interviews. She didn't want to talk to reporters. She didn't want to elaborate on the story. IMO, if she had been more vocal during the release of the movie, and perhaps gave some interviews and elaborated on the story and it's meaning (the destructive effects of homophobia), then maybe perhaps she wouldn't have gotten letters from "men" telling her how her story should be different.
But, where was she? Hmmmm? I think her silence about the movie and story during the movie's release actually hurt it (the message she was tryin' to get across) in some ways. It
did leave it open to "fantasy pornish re-writes" if that's where some folks wanted to take it...
So, what can she do about it now? How about this Annie? Instead of going on temper tantrum tyrades and generalizing that we all "got it wrong", how about replying to these "men" who sent you their versions of the story, and
constructively explaining to them and elaborating to them why the story and movie is the way it is. How about talking more to the press and holding book discussion/movie screenings and elaborating on exactly what the "destructive effects of rural homophobia" are, and discussing why you wrote the story the way you did and why the movie the way it is. Perhaps then Annie, the re-writes of your story will stop coming to you...
She could choose to actively do something constructive and positive here (even though she missed the opportunity to do so when the movie was fresh out in the theatres and all a buzz), or she can sit there and continue to complain about it and be upset about it....