Oh Wow! This sounds like something I just saw. I just watched For The Bible Tells Me So on Thursday night. It was such a great movie. But one of the people in the movie(It's basically a documentary) was a mother who was raised and raised her children as strict fundamentalists. The womans daughter turned out to be gay and hung herself in her closet. It was so heartbreaking. However, the woman became a gay rights activist and is a part of the group SoulFource that travels around the country speaking to churches and groups.
Her story is amazing all be it very sad. If you havent seent he movie yet I highly reccomend it.
That's very similar to the experience of the mother in
Prayers For Bobby. She believed for literally years that God was going to "heal" her son, and even interpreted the final warning signs of his impending suicide as a sign that he was being 'convicted of sin.' His death, and the lack of any answers she got from the church she had been so loyal to, led to one of those personal crises where a person starts questioning all their core beliefs and eventually has to rebuild them from the ground up. Mary Griffith eventually became very active in PFLAG.
Won't be able to see the movie till I can get it on DVD (work schedule, not a Lifetime subscriber) but I highly recommend the book it's based on. Hopefully the movie will revive some interest in it (it was published in 1996).