Heath Ledger - the grieving thread

[Jeff Wrangler]

If there has to be a lesson in death, I would rather have it be something like: "make sure your doctor and pharmacist know all the medications you are taking, and follow the instructions on the prescription." Less attention-getting, perhaps, though.

Agreed.

Sorry it had to be such a sad occasion to bring you back to us, Friend. You've been missed.

[Mikaela]

"Where is the horse and the rider?
Where is the horn that was blowing?
They have passed like rain on the Mountain,
like wind in the meadow.
The days have gone down in the West
behind the hills into shadow.

How did it come to this?"

The poem is by JRR Tolkien in Lord of the Rings, as distilled by Peter Jackson. I thought it was very fitting for my emotions just now.

[Kelda]

I made the same mistake. It was disgusting to see how insensitive some people can be on an anonymous IMDb board. Truly wretched.

God bless BetterMost. I love you guys. Heath, I'll miss you so much; I've never experienced this from a movie in my life. I wish I'd had the opportunity to meet you and tell you in person.

Yup, me too, as I can't get on here at work but CAN get on IMDB. Although to be fair there are 99 times more people devastaed.

You know, I've been thinking, what would Heath make of this? It's all I've heard or seen in the news all day - we all know how much he hated being in the limelight. Do you think he's happy to see people mourning or embarassed and wanting everyone to stop?

I still can't believe it. So sad.

[MaineWriter]

I just wanted to share some thoughts about the black bag.  It was an object with the shell that had previously housed Heath.  At the time the stretcher left the house, Heath had already left his body - he wasn't there, he wasn't in that bag.  His physical form is something that we grieve over, but it isn't him.

That is what I think, at least.

I agree, Bel. Thanks for sharing.

[Jeff Wrangler]

I was exhausted from caring for a newborn, sure, but my dear husband did all the night feedings so I could get some sleep at night.  And yet I couldn't sleep.  Some people with depression just sleep all the time - I was on the opposite end of the spectrum.

Well, we've certainly been hearing that Heath was having trouble sleeping. Insomnia must be a horrible thing. 

[Scott6373]

"Where is the horse and the rider?
Where is the horn that was blowing?
They have passed like rain on the Mountain,
like wind in the meadow.
The days have gone down in the West
behind the hills into shadow.

How did it come to this?"

The poem is by JRR Tolkien in Lord of the Rings, as distilled by Peter Jackson. I thought it was very fitting for my emotions just now.

That's perfect!

[Kelda]

Heath is the lead story on Anderson Cooper tongight on CNN. I just can't bear to watch, but I cannot not watch either.  This is still so unreal and terrible and horrilbe and awful and unbearable.

I know what you mean Cameron - I have the same feeling - it was the same with the Tsunami - I was just glues to the tv - even though I didn't want to be. The radio station I listen to in the morning - Chris Moyles on BBC Radio 1 (I believe its on a pay per hear radio channel in the USA) was talking about it - now normally Chris is a joker but he was quite sad this morning and was saying how he saw the news but that he couldn't tuen it off. He was saying that they said ' they're just bringing the body out' and he was like I don't want to see this - yet he didn't switch over.

I've just been looking up stuff as much as I can today  chekcing the news every 10mins for any updates....

[Kelda]

I have so many thoughts and things I want to say, I have no idea where to begin or how to write 'em all down.  So I'm just going to ramble and probably not make sense:

I wonder if he was hoping for another nomination for his role in "I'm Not There" and then the nominations were announced today, and he wasn't nominated...

I was wondering - can he possibly get nominated for the batman movie?

It makes me mad - at the time of him not getting the best actor award everyone was like - but people have to do a few films before they get it - he'll get awarded for BBM in a couplemof years for another role - just like Phillip Seymor Hoffman did that year.

Now he's not getting that chance. 

[Kelda]

They're reporting that Heath's mom and dad heard of his death on the news.

Sigh...

Shit. Thats hard.

That was my one worry.  That family, Michelle etc would find out that way. I knew 90mins wasn't long enough for them to know before it was  all over the news.

[Kelda]

Thanks, Flash. I sure hope it's true, and the medical examiner can prove it, so we're not left with some space between what we know, and what we want to believe. 

And now I think I need a drink. 

Can they though - I mean an accidental overdose won;t look different medically than an intended overdose, no? I suppose if he's just got enough medicine in his body to kill him, rather than lots and lots, thats a good indication.

Leslie, Wishes and any other nurses - can you elaborate?