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Would be interested in your views on this..

Journalist Samantha Brick provoked an internet storm on Wednesday (3 April) by suggesting other women hate her “for no other reason than my lovely looks.”

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2124246/Samantha-Brick-downsides-looking-pretty-Why-women-hate-beautiful.html

My take on purely what the article says, well, I think her problem is more personality than looks .. but maybe I'm just jealous!?

Some interesting takes by other journalists:

http://www.stylist.co.uk/people/we-dont-hate-you-samantha-brick#image-rotator-1
http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2012/apr/04/samantha-brick-thrown-to-wolves
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/technology/internet/9188229/Samantha-Brick-ten-out-of-ten-men-fancy-me.html


And her response to the storm.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2124782/Samantha-Brick-says-backlash-bile-yesterdays-Daily-Mail-proves-shes-right.html


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Re: Twitter Storm - Samantha Brick - Why Women Hate Beautiful Women
« Reply #1 on: April 05, 2012, 03:30:21 pm »
Yeah, I saw the article yesterday and I saw a picture of her.  I think she is just average looking at best, and I am not jealous of her.  The woman is delusional, but then again, as my dad always said, "It is a mighty poor frog that won't praise its own pond."  If she has so much self-esteem (I guess I can call it that) to think women are jealous of her looks, and so beautiful that men spoil her, well, more power to her.  ::)

I wonder what she thinks about truly beautiful women like Halle Berry and Anne Hathaway.  I mean, does she actually look in the mirror and thinks she can hold a candle to them?  I know beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but c'mon!

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Re: Twitter Storm - Samantha Brick - Why Women Hate Beautiful Women
« Reply #2 on: April 05, 2012, 03:46:24 pm »
There is certainly nothing new in the concept of women disliking other women because of their looks. Years ago there was a TV commercial, I think for some brand of shampoo, with a woman spokesperson and the tag line, "Don't hate me because I'm beautiful."

Until this came along, I'd never heard of Samantha Brick, or seen her or a picture of her. I'd call her no more than commonly good looking.
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Re: Twitter Storm - Samantha Brick - Why Women Hate Beautiful Women
« Reply #3 on: April 05, 2012, 10:12:12 pm »


  She has based her argument on a false premise.  She is not all that good looking to begin with.  She is alright, but certainly not
even close to beautiful..
  She has for another point in her disfavor, falsely appraised her attractiveness.
  She has forgotten to mention this as an argument in their favor.
  It would be the same thing if Ann Coulter tried to make this same premise.  But if you consider both of their attractiveness,      ..Ann wins.
  She is disliked not because of her looks, but because she is such a prig.  Abusive, and unbending. 
  Maybe Ms. whatshername should look closer in the mirror, and then make her arguments..  Or better yet, maybe she should
do some work on her attitude, and personality around others.


 



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Re: Twitter Storm - Samantha Brick - Why Women Hate Beautiful Women
« Reply #4 on: April 06, 2012, 04:39:36 pm »
I don't think she's ugly but I'd say she's average looking with a decent body.. I think her snotty personality may be the problem!
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Re: Twitter Storm - Samantha Brick - Why Women Hate Beautiful Women
« Reply #5 on: April 06, 2012, 10:56:06 pm »
Any argument that starts with "Women do such and such..."  or "Men do thus and so..." is specious.  The only result you can get from overgeneralizing is a whole lot of contradictory opinions.
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Re: Twitter Storm - Samantha Brick - Why Women Hate Beautiful Women
« Reply #6 on: April 07, 2012, 12:16:32 am »
Any argument that starts with "Women do such and such..."  or "Men do thus and so..." is specious.  The only result you can get from overgeneralizing is a whole lot of contradictory opinions.

Depends on what fills in the ellipses. Nobody's going to argue with a generalization like "Men sing lower than women."
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Re: Twitter Storm - Samantha Brick - Why Women Hate Beautiful Women
« Reply #7 on: April 07, 2012, 01:15:50 am »
Any argument that starts with "Women do such and such..."  or "Men do thus and so..." is specious.  The only result you can get from overgeneralizing is a whole lot of contradictory opinions.

Right on, Louise. When I hear the concept of some beautiful woman being "hated" by other women for her looks, it usually comes from a man writing about a fictional character (I stopped reading a novel recently because the male author said, of a female character who was beautiful and also quite nice, that she had no friends in high school because "of course" the other girls all hated her -- I don't know where he went to high school, but in my high school beautiful girls tended to be popular with boys and girls alike).

In real life, I have never heard a woman express anything more negative than (at most!) benign, friendly envy over another woman's good looks. I've never heard of women worrying that some beautiful woman was going to "steal" their boyfriend, unless of course the beautiful woman was actively trying to do so. In the case of Samantha Brick, it's pretty clear reading between the lines of her piece that if women "hate" her, it's because she's self-obsessed and otherwise obnoxious.

The most insightful discussion of this episode I saw was this piece from Jezebel, which accuses the Daily Mail of using the unwitting Brick as troll bait:

http://jezebel.com/5898848/yes-samantha-brick-is-obnoxious-but-the-daily-mail-is-trolling-us-all

Yes, Samantha Brick Is Obnoxious, But the Daily Mail Is Trolling Us All
By Lindy West

If you haven't heard (in which case you are either Helen Keller or dead), some woman named Samantha Brick wrote a million-word humble-brag in the Daily Mail about how terrifically difficult it is to go through life as a magnificent beauty. It's that same old trope you hear supermodels trot out on every late-night talk show when they're trying to sound down-to-earth—My life isn't perfect even though my body is! I can't help it that other women were born disgusting! Also I love video games! Relate to me!!!

Brick even followed that up with the second oldest trick in the please-like-me-even-though-I'm-better-than-you handbook—telling Huffington Post that she used to be a big fat ugly-duckling tomboy who got teased every day because she was basically a human pimple in a softball uniform who never stopped eating submarine sandwiches. That is, until one morning when she woke up and discovered that she was literally Cindy Crawford. And life became a new kind of hell. Yawn x infinity.

But while it's nothing we haven't heard before, Brick's Daily Mail article is stunningly annoying and embarrassingly delusional. Some examples:

    If you're a woman reading this, I'd hazard that you've already formed your own opinion about me—and it won't be very flattering. For while many doors have been opened (literally) as a result of my looks, just as many have been metaphorically slammed in my face—and usually by my own sex.

    I'm not smug and I'm no flirt, yet over the years I've been dropped by countless friends who felt threatened if I was merely in the presence of their other halves. If their partners dared to actually talk to me, a sudden chill would descend on the room.


From there Brick relates approximately 4,000 anecdotes about different times when ugly lady-ogres were mean to her or supposedly "discriminated against" her because of her looks. She's been passed over for promotions by "jealous" bosses, she's never been asked to be a bridesmaid, and she can't keep female friends for more than five minutes because the power of her beautiful vagina will inevitably bewitch their husbands. (Meanwhile, she can't walk down the street without men showering her in jewels, or fly on a plane without receiving free champagne compliments of the captain's boner.) At no point in the article does Brick confront Occam's razor—the idea that people might not want to work with her or talk to her or be her friend because she's an annoying dumbass and a shitty person. Maybe? Just a thought. Or, sure. It's because you're pretty and no pretty woman has ever had a friend before.

Obnoxious, yes—on the "WAAAAAAAHHHHHH" scale, complaints like this one fall somewhere between misandry and reverse racism—but to be honest, my first reaction was pity. And not the kind of pity Brick is looking for. See, the whole thing is complicated by the seven photos of Brick and her face and her body and her hilarious French husband (hoh hoh hohhh!!!) accompanying the article. She's just...and I know I'm walking a delicate line here...not that cute. She is freakishly average. If you looked up "just some lady" in the dictionary, there'd be a picture of Samantha Brick. She's fine. She's normal. She's one of us.

So I can't help but feel like the Daily Mail is playing a trick on her.

The Daily Mail is a large-scale professional troll, and this article is troll-bait of the highest order—a master stroke of carefully orchestrated misogyny. It basically screams, "HERE, TROLLS! DON'T YOU HATE THIS AWFUL BITCH? LOOK, SHE THINKS SHE'S BETTER THAN YOU BUT SHE ISN'T EVEN PRETTY!" It begs women to go all mean-girl on her (every woman I spoke to succumbed to the temptation immediately), gives men a pass to comment on the relative value and fuckability of her body, and encourages both sexes to eviscerate, body-shame, and judge Brick with impunity because her ideas are so repellant. Like if she were prettier she would have earned the right to say such ridiculous shit.


Everyone's opinions are open to scrutiny—that's where progress comes from—but Brick's ideas (if she's even being sincere) are obnoxious independent of whether or not we think her physical appearance matches her self-perception. There is no magic attractiveness quotient that makes stupid ideas more or less acceptable. I'll criticize Samantha Brick because her ideas are offensive and divisive, thank you very much; taking her to task for her crow's feet is sexist, gross, and letting her off too easy.

It's also sad. The Daily Mail article and its backlash would be one thing if Brick was unassailable, but she's not. She elicits this feeling that's almost like a class tension—like she's punching above her weight, looking down on the rest of us normals with pretensions that she hasn't earned. For the Daily Mail to put such an obviously average woman (whose self-regard transcends confidence and becomes something close to paranoid delusion) on display like this, with crazy ideas like this, on a platform like this, feels uncomfortably close to bullying. And it makes Brick pitiable.

The trolling is working. People are going fucking nuts. The Telegraph has fustily declared the backlash to be "worse" than the original article—and even though that's obviously silly (the article is bullshit and deserves to be called out as such), I'm sure as hell not interested in piling on at this point. It feels too much like a set-up. By giving Samantha Brick miles of rope and an extremely public tree, the Daily Mail is trying to trollify us all. It's a little peek behind the curtain at how the media deliberately pits women against women for fun and profit. Fuck that. Ladies, let's stop biting.





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Re: Twitter Storm - Samantha Brick - Why Women Hate Beautiful Women
« Reply #8 on: April 07, 2012, 07:50:40 am »
Depends on what fills in the ellipses. Nobody's going to argue with a generalization like "Men sing lower than women."

only in general, Milo.  Many concert tenors can't hit some of the low notes I can, and despite my intersex condition my birth certificate says "F".  And 'Sweet Honey in the Rock' has a couple of basses who will make your ears ring.  That's the problem with generalizations.  THEY'RE GENERAL.

In this case, it is not only a cliche but also an unfortunate stereotype that has abundant refutations in real life examples.  The Daily Mail printed this to get controversy going and nothing more.
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Re: Twitter Storm - Samantha Brick - Why Women Hate Beautiful Women
« Reply #9 on: April 07, 2012, 12:23:00 pm »
The Daily Mail printed this to get controversy going and nothing more.

Hehehe. You're right on there.
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Re: Twitter Storm - Samantha Brick - Why Women Hate Beautiful Women
« Reply #10 on: April 07, 2012, 04:51:20 pm »
I'm really not a fan of the Daily Mail in general and I'd generally agree with the article you pointed to Katy. In addition, the guardian wrote similar things in the article I posted in my first post.


http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2012/apr/04/samantha-brick-thrown-to-wolves


But she has since appeared on TV and with other newspapers and she stands by what she wrote!


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Re: Twitter Storm - Samantha Brick - Why Women Hate Beautiful Women
« Reply #11 on: April 07, 2012, 05:45:39 pm »
But she has since appeared on TV and with other newspapers and she stands by what she wrote!

Sure, because she's clearly something of a delusional idiot. The essay is proof of that.

I didn't realize until reading the Guardian column you posted that the Daily Mail was notorious for changing writers' work in ways that made them look bad, which would of course be even more unconscionable.

But even if they published her essay exactly as written, even if Samantha Brick herself firmly believes every word of it, the problem remains that the Daily Mail editors, obviously seeing that the essay was ridiculous, published it anyway, giving it good play, knowing full well that they were hanging Samantha Brick out like raw meat to the internet wolves, not caring that she came off looking like a fool and capitalizing on yet another media-generated misogynist fake controversy pitting women against women.

Most responsible publications don't publish things purposely designed to make their writers look like fools.




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Re: Twitter Storm - Samantha Brick - Why Women Hate Beautiful Women
« Reply #12 on: April 07, 2012, 07:02:01 pm »


    My suggestion to the lady is.  Go to some fancy salon.  Get a makeover.  Find some "Pretty Woman," clothes.  Then just maybe she will make the outside match the ego.



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Re: Twitter Storm - Samantha Brick - Why Women Hate Beautiful Women
« Reply #13 on: April 07, 2012, 09:36:08 pm »

    My suggestion to the lady is.  Go to some fancy salon.  Get a makeover.  Find some "Pretty Woman," clothes.  Then just maybe she will make the outside match the ego.

Yes, she has potential.  If some makeup wizard got his/her hands on Mrs. Brick  she would look good.

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Re: Twitter Storm - Samantha Brick - Why Women Hate Beautiful Women
« Reply #14 on: April 07, 2012, 09:41:26 pm »
Seriously, though, the problem is not that she's not good looking enough or doesn't wear pretty enough clothes. She's sort of average -- not the beauty she perceives herself to be -- but that's beside the point. There's no such thing as "mak(ing) the outside match the ego" because there's no way that level of ego is sane, ever. If she were [insert name of most beautiful celebrity or whatever you can think of] her piece would still be way out of line. And the Daily Mail would still be out of line for inviting readers to critique a writer's evaluation of her own looks.





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Re: Twitter Storm - Samantha Brick - Why Women Hate Beautiful Women
« Reply #15 on: April 08, 2012, 03:02:58 pm »


   I agree.  It is very odd or self (promoting of them.)  To at once promote her article.  While at the same time offering her
to the wolves, or in this case the bitch wolves.
   I have to admit.  She was probably set up.  I can just hear the meeting..they were all laughing their heads off.  Going "can you believe this bitch?"  We can publish her and let the hammers fall where they may.



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