Well my most favoite extra in the movie was Alexandra Hager, a resident of Rockyford, Alberta, who knocked Jake Gyllenhaal down by accident and then fled the scene in terror.
(You owe me, Jake! )
Now this really raises my curiosity. Do elaborate! How did she knock Jake down?? What scene was the extra in?
Except that LeShawn is a bit more direct about feeling that she married beneath her. And that could have surfaced pretty early in the marriage.
I'd guess that Jack was probably very used to Lureen's parents - an particularly L.D.- making it pretty clear that she married "beneath" her. I get the sense that in many cases (especially where Lureen's parents are concerned) that Jack and Lureen are allies. So, at least in the family context I don't think that Lureen would have pushed the idea that Jack was "beneath" her. But, again, I do think that all the people at the dinner dance are probably making Jack feel very out of place as the only one at the table with a limited education. He can't even really participate in a conversation that's about college football, sororities and majors. Around the time that they were all in college, he was on the mountain with Ennis.
And, I do agree that LaShawn was putting Randall down a bit in the conversation at dinner. But, I think a lot of couples do this thinking that they're being funny or joshing each other... or giving each other a hard time in a humorous way with a wink and a nudge. And, sometimes I think it definitely can become annoying or grating to one or the other of the individuals in the couple after a while. I don't know that we really know enough about the full context of the relationship between LaShawn and Randall to understand all the dynamics between them. I do think Lureen and LaShawn understand each other... or at least have a gut feeling that they can understand one another about their marital situations.