I went out this evening for dinner with my friend G. and four others of her friends. We were celebrating her completion of graduate school. She worked so hard, very disciplined about balancing everything else around studying for two and a half years. It seems like it wasn't that long ago that she was agonizing over whether to go back to school or not, and now she's done.
Her daughter is three weeks younger than my daughter. In the last four years I've raised a daughter. In the same four years, G. has raised a daughter and gotten a master's degree in a field she believes in. Comparison late at night when I am tired is not a good idea.
Tomorrow there will be seven of us here for dinner - a vegan, two vegetarians, one person who doesn't think it's food unless it's meat, two children and one who weighs and measures everything she eats, and requires that nothing (including cooking oil) be mixed with any other category during cooking. So I'm making steamed brown and wild rice, separating some out for the measurer and the vegan, and then mixing melted Cambozola cheese into the rest (becomes like a risotto, without all the stirring), roasted summer vegetables (cooking spray on them doesn't count as oil), a green salad with a variety of optional stuff like cashews for people to put in it, and Rainier cherries if there are any left in the stores, otherwise some other kind of fruit.
When I invited my friends, I had a picture of us all being just in the backyard, but it looks like it's going to be raining and we'll need to be inside. I am going to try to not clean, clean, clean to get ready for them. I'm also going to try not to worry, worry, worry about not cleaning, cleaning, cleaning.
I can do most of this very simple dinner before they get here, and I want to just be part of the hanging out once they're here.
I am lucky to have a house, a yard, a family, friends, the money to buy $16 a pound cheese and Rainier cherries, rain that we need, a recliner (that I'm in now), a laptop (that I'm on now), a mother in pretty good health, even though far away, and that I didn't have to be studying relentlessly for the last two and a half years.
