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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16710 on: August 25, 2020, 11:30:26 am »
Consider yourselves fortunate that you are even able to have a staycation.
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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16711 on: August 25, 2020, 01:33:45 pm »
Consider yourselves fortunate that you are even able to have a staycation.

How so? Don't you get vacation time at your job? Or do you mean we're lucky to get a scheduled staycation vs. an indefinite length of "staycation"? In which case, yes, we're fortunate that we have jobs to take staycations from!

As a newspaper reporter, it's strange to be in a relatively secure industry for a change (circulation is up, but advertising is way down, which eventually will reap havoc).

I may have already said this, but we were all required to take four days of furlough in Q2 and Q3. I took each set of four in the same week, and before July 25, so I qualified for unemployment for that week plus the $600 extra.



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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16712 on: August 25, 2020, 02:05:58 pm »
How so? Don't you get vacation time at your job? Or do you mean we're lucky to get a scheduled staycation vs. an indefinite length of "staycation"? In which case, yes, we're fortunate that we have jobs to take staycations from!

I mean you're fortunate not to be in the situation I am with my father. I have "time when I'm not working," but for the foreseeable future I have no such thing as a vacation or a staycation. (He's now started asking me, "When are you coming home?" He never used to do that.)

(I know Chucks parents are older, but at least he's geographically close to them.)
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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16713 on: August 25, 2020, 03:32:22 pm »
I mean you're fortunate not to be in the situation I am with my father. I have "time when I'm not working," but for the foreseeable future I have no such thing as a vacation or a staycation.

I'm still not sure I totally understand the distinction. My staycation was basically time when I wasn't working. Except I was catching up on chores and doing some "hobby writing" (creative but rarely remunerative creative nonfiction). I made some actual progress and tried to spend some time each day just relaxing, but I had to keep reminding myself not to feel guilty about it.

But maybe you just mean I could relax, in a way, without worrying that at any moment I might have to leap into action to care for a parent. That much is true, although I've done some of that in the distant past.



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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16714 on: August 25, 2020, 06:07:28 pm »
But maybe you just mean I could relax, in a way, without worrying that at any moment I might have to leap into action to care for a parent. That much is true, although I've done some of that in the distant past.

That's more or less what I meant. You had time to do things that you wanted to do. It's not even having to leap into action at any time. Even just visiting him is not a vacation. It's become stressful in itself. God forgive me.
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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16715 on: August 25, 2020, 10:28:52 pm »
That's more or less what I meant. You had time to do things that you wanted to do. It's not even having to leap into action at any time. Even just visiting him is not a vacation. It's become stressful in itself. God forgive me.

There is no reason you need to be forgiven.

I'm not an only child, and both of my parents are in good health.   That being said, my mother is an only child, and I saw first hand what she went through with both of her parents, and the fact that she lived three and 1/2 hours away from them, on top of that, mom didn't drive.

when her mom was in the Alzheimer's facility, mom was always stressed about calls from them.  Did gram fall?  Did she have an episode and hit someone?  Did someone have an episode and hit her?  Was she comfortable?

When gram passed, my mother was there in the room and had her chance to say good bye.  The next morning, she told me that she felt guilty saying it, but it was the first night that she had a good night sleep in a long time.  I told  her there was nothing to feel guilty about, it just meant she no longer had to exhaust herself with worry.

Taking care of anyone is mentally and physically draining.


Tell him when l come up to him and ask to play the record, l'm gonna say: ''Voulez-vous jouer ce disque?''
'Voulez-vous, will you kiss my dick?'
Will you play my record? One-track mind!

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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16716 on: August 25, 2020, 10:39:52 pm »
There is no reason you need to be forgiven.

I'm not an only child, and both of my parents are in good health.   That being said, my mother is an only child, and I saw first hand what she went through with both of her parents, and the fact that she lived three and 1/2 hours away from them, on top of that, mom didn't drive.

when her mom was in the Alzheimer's facility, mom was always stressed about calls from them.  Did gram fall?  Did she have an episode and hit someone?  Did someone have an episode and hit her?  Was she comfortable?

When gram passed, my mother was there in the room and had her chance to say good bye.  The next morning, she told me that she felt guilty saying it, but it was the first night that she had a good night sleep in a long time.  I told  her there was nothing to feel guilty about, it just meant she no longer had to exhaust herself with worry.

Taking care of anyone is mentally and physically draining.

Thanks for that, Chuck.
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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16717 on: August 26, 2020, 11:18:26 am »
That's more or less what I meant. You had time to do things that you wanted to do. It's not even having to leap into action at any time. Even just visiting him is not a vacation. It's become stressful in itself. God forgive me.

My mom died in 2008 after living with Alzheimer's for about 10 years. By then she had moved to an assisted living in Denver, because my family had moved to Chicago in 2006. But in the years before that, when we all lived in Minneapolis, I did a lot of caregiving. I also had two small children -- the classic sandwich generation situation.

My dad died in 1996 of a brain tumor. I found out about it when my younger son was two weeks old, my older son 18 months. I was living in New Orleans then and had to dash up to Minneapolis with a newborn. My dad was up and around at that point but the exploratory surgery left him with aphasia. He died on my younger son's three-month birthday.

I didn't do much actual caregiving for him because his wife, my stepmother, immediately retired and cared for him. But of course it was all very stressful.

So I know, it's hard. I feel for you. In the end you probably will feel some relief -- I certainly did with my mom. Don't feel guilty about it. In years after that, you'll be glad you were there for him.


 

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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16718 on: August 30, 2020, 09:22:51 pm »
Hiya BetterMost friends!!!!




I hope that everyone is doing well!


I've been busy with work this past week, and now it will be bedtime in three hours, and then back to work again!

Had a late lunch today with my niece for her birthday.  Went out to a place that has a large outdoor area.  My niece had said that she enjoys coloring in her quiet time, apparently she finds it relaxing.  I got her a battery-powered pencil sharpener, some batteries, a set of colored pencils, and two coloring books for adults, with really intricate patterns inside.

Things have been status quo over here.   I can't remember if I said this, but we were told we won't be going back to the office until January 2021.  My company sent out a survey asking who would be willing to go back to the office.  I said that I was fine with going back in, but not util the new year.

I also found out that my bowling league won't be starting again until January, instead of September, and I'm fine with that.


Tell him when l come up to him and ask to play the record, l'm gonna say: ''Voulez-vous jouer ce disque?''
'Voulez-vous, will you kiss my dick?'
Will you play my record? One-track mind!

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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16719 on: August 31, 2020, 08:44:03 am »
I also found out that my bowling league won't be starting again until January, instead of September, and I'm fine with that.

No handling your balls in public till January?

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