Exactly right June. I,ts not so much that they turn up that annoys me, it,s that they turn up unanounced. They didnt even have the manners to phone first and ask if it was ok. They just assume that they,ll be welcome. God forbid Ennis and Ellery should have had something planned for the weekend. And like you said June, Ennis worries so much about hurting their feelings he always feels he has to give in to them They dont seem to consider his feelings atall. I find them both extreemly immature tbh. Hard to beleive they are supposed to be adults.
They don't call because their Dad is their Dad--no appointment necessary!
1980s rural America is casual---I have friends yet, (and I to them) that just walk right in the house and "HELLO"!! Don't even knock----IF I ever called my parents before I dropped in, they would wonder what was wrong! LOTS of people, esp. family just drop by other family, with no notice, and in WY--it isn't any different now than then, except maybe a few more people actually lock their doors.
After I was married and lived 16 miles from my folks, I would walk right in like I still lived there, been married 29 years, and I still am walking in-both my folks and my in laws- and all my 5 brothers/sisters are the same---and when my Mom or Dad comes to any of our houses, they don't knock, they walk in and yell--Hey, Where are you? IF there was ever any phone calls asking "are you home?"--we would panic thinking it was a major emergency if they had to check first.
I think you all aren't taking into any account the times or the people/places!
(yes I know it is the irritation of them not being able to continue the "fanciness" that is the sticker, but stuff happens! LOL)