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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16790 on: November 11, 2020, 06:47:52 pm »
I accidentally hoarded toilet paper at the beginning of the pandemic. I always order my TP from Amazon (it's more convenient and cheaper) and it was coming in a little more often than needed when COVID hit. So I had, I don't know, maybe 40 rolls. I thought, well, at least that's one thing I won't have to worry about.

I have a small supply of toilet paper that will last me.  I live alone, and usually get a 4-pack, but now those can't be found, so the last time I went shopping I had to get a 12-pack.  That will last a while.

I buy toothpaste on special. I have to buy Sensodyne. I end up with 5 or 6 tubes in the bathroom drawer. For the last few months I have been not checking if it is on special and now only have one spare tube left in the drawer so guess I can start checking as I walk past again. I do not use mouth wash, shaving cream, razors or sleep aids. My Grandfather died when I was 14 or 15 so I inherited his electric shaver and have never used anything else.

I buy TP in the supermarket. It sounds strange to buy it from Amazon, that would mean importing it from the USA.There is now a branch in Australia but NZ items come from USA. I use to buy books from Amazon but the postage is horrendous. The only things I buy on mail order are the very occasional book (NZ book companies) and Nespresso coffee capsules.

I have no choice but to use sleep aids.  I've always been a 'bad' sleeper.  I can fall asleep, but I'll wake up a few times during the night.  The natural sleep aid I found works well.  As for TP, I just get mine at the market when I get my regular groceries.

Right, it wouldn't be worth doing if you have to pay for overseas shipping and/or live alone.

I have an Amazon Prime account, which offers free quick shipping along with access to movies, etc. I buy toilet paper and other household items from their Subscribe & Save account, which automatically sends products on a scheduled basis and gives you 15% discount you buy five things at a time. And I don't have to go to the store and wrangle giant packages in and out of my car.

I just looked at my account and saw that I'm scheduled to get 32 rolls of toilet paper on Dec. 7. I currently have 24 in my storage closet.  :laugh: Guess I'd better postpone that order.

I also am scheduled to receive 16 rolls of paper towels. I currently have 30. Might have to postpone that one, too.

Although at one point during the early pandemic hoarding days, the site ran out of paper towels in my brand. It asked if I would accept a different brand. I said yes. But the "paper towels" that arrived weren't really equivalent  -- they were rolls the texture of newsprint paper. I kept them to use to pack things when I move.

Yea, I would think that postponing those deliveries is a good idea.  :laugh:

Newsprint paper towels?  Ugh.  Doesn't sound like they would do the intended job.

Heck, those problems existed when Washington was president.  It's odd, when you hear Trump supporters interviewed they always say the same thing, as if they're speaking from a script. When progressives are interviewed, they sound way different from each other. Could it be that Trumpers are actually brainwashed?

Regarding the woman who obsessed on a man's foul language...that reminds me of a community Zoom I was in recently where the facilitator asked what were the things people liked/disliked about our neighborhood. A couple of the respondents said homeless people. They went on and on about people living under a bridge (not in our neighborhood), walking along the street looking unkempt (not in our neighborhood), and camping out in downtown (ditto). There are also people who obsess about looters. Whenever you talk to them, the subject always comes up.

Katherine, what you are going through is horrific and I applaud your professionalism and your perseverance! I'm trying to support journalists with my subscriptions and the occasional email about good articles written. I wish I could do more.

I don't know about being brainwashed, but I think that a lot of people are unable to admit to being wrong.  Everyone wants to be right, so rather than saying that they made a bad decision, they will believe anything that they are told, which prevents them from having to admit they were wrong.


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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16791 on: November 11, 2020, 08:34:56 pm »
I had to go and check the brand of TP I currently buy. It is 'Earth Safe'. I know where it is located on the Supermarket shelf. I hate it when  the supermarket rearranges their shelves, completely throws me. With TP it has to be 100% recycled and made in NZ. I also want the packaging  to be paper not plastic. My previous brand was a bit rough and I bought another softer brand for visitors. However I am not sure what happened to that brand and I have changed. This brand seems better. I can vaguely remember as a child having to use cut up newspaper during shortages. I assure you no brand I have ever bought compares.

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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16792 on: November 12, 2020, 12:51:12 pm »
Chuck what you said about people not wanting to admit they are wrong hit home with me. I vow to sit with this idea and think of times I was wrong. Off the top of my head, I was wrong about not wanting to take the pills that were prescribed to me. I've gotten used to taking them now and it's not a burden anymore. I think they are doing me good.

There are certain things that I think of as core values for me and I hope they never change. I think all people deserve respect and to have their basic needs met. I think we are only as good as how we treat those who are poor or suffering. I believe in being kind and giving each person a chance. I believe people have a right to decide what happens to their own body. No one has a right to threaten or force others. That kind of thing. And maybe these people Katherine was talking about have hate as one of their core values. Maybe they experienced childhood trauma that pushed them away from other people.

This may be pollyannish, but possibly the act of admitting you're wrong could be reframed as changing your mind. I do know that people changed their mind about Trump and voted against him in the latest election. Sadly there are those who changed their minds the other way, including some people in our circle, including Brokies!  :-\
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Re: Cellar Scribblings
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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16794 on: November 14, 2020, 10:53:10 am »
I'm trying to support journalists with my subscriptions and the occasional email about good articles written. I wish I could do more.

Thank you! At least my paper is doing fairly well, relatively. Nobody's been laid off -- in fact, they're hiring. I heard just yesterday that there are now NO daily papers in North Dakota.

maybe these people Katherine was talking about have hate as one of their core values. Maybe they experienced childhood trauma that pushed them away from other people.[/b]

I think their core values are things like "People should have to work to support themselves, not expect support from others who earned what they have." Which is why they don't like universal health care, welfare, immigration, taxes, etc. "People should follow the law, and if they don't they should be punished." Which is why they like harsh crime bills and capital punishment, why they think Trump would have been a good "law and order" president who'd crack down on crime, why they were more alarmed by the unrest following George Floyd's death they were by the death itself. "The police are there to protect us and they have a difficult, dangerous job."

I could go on an on. They think people of color are more likely to be poor because they don't work hard and are disproportionately in prison because they commit more crimes, rather than that they have a harder time getting good jobs and are treated unfairly in the criminal justice system. They think the 1950s were the good old days because everyone lived pretty peacefully and shared similar values. They think society got out of hand in the 1960s and needs to go back to the traditional ways.

Of course, I think all these core beliefs have strong counterarguments. I think they're either wrong or don't see the whole picture. But those are their beliefs and they don't change easily.

Researchers have found that people who identify as Democrats or liberals and people who identify as Republicans or conservatives have very different core values when you take politics out of it. Respect for authority vs. questioning authority. Personal responsibility vs. societal support. Tradition vs. change.

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This may be pollyannish, but possibly the act of admitting you're wrong could be reframed as changing your mind.

I think something like realizing you were wrong about your pills isn't as hard as some of these other things. And if you strongly believed that Trump is a good, smart, regular guy working on behalf of your best interests, it's hard to acknowledge he's just the opposite and admit you were fooled all along.

But another problem I've seen in politics is that when politicians DO change their minds, realizing some policy they supported had negative consequences, we label it flip-flopping.



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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16795 on: November 14, 2020, 02:24:23 pm »
they were more alarmed by the unrest following George Floyd's death they were by the death itself.

I believe you get your point across--George Floyd's death was a horrible tragedy and a criminal act-- but I also believe that's a bit unfair to people of whatever stripe who were in danger of losing businesses they may have spent many years building, especially in cities that had no connection to Floyd's murder.
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« Reply #16796 on: November 14, 2020, 04:30:16 pm »
I believe you get your point across--George Floyd's death was a horrible tragedy and a criminal act-- but I also believe that's a bit unfair to people of whatever stripe who were in danger of losing businesses they may have spent many years building, especially in cities that had no connection to Floyd's murder.

Good point. But in Minneapolis, at least, very few of those people were likely right-wing Trump supporters, given the neighborhood (mostly low income and/or lefty), with the possible exception of corporate-owned chain stores.

So yeah, people whose stores were destroyed -- I talked to one guy, the manager of a looted thrift store -- would have good reason to be upset. But most people think that some of the looting and burning was committed by opportunists. For example, they caught six white teenage boys who had driven in from Wisconsin expressly to loot liquor stores.

I would have thought one exception would be the police station that was burned. Protesters would have motive for that (it's the precinct of George Floyd's killers). And I think some have been arrested. But a couple of weeks ago they arrested a guy who shot an AK-47 into the building with people inside and apparently did other arson-y things. That guy identifies with the Boogaloo Boys (per Wikipedia: a loosely organized far-right, anti-government, and extremist political movement in the United States. ... Boogaloo adherents say they are preparing for, or seek to incite, a second American Civil War which they call the boogaloo.)

That said, circumstances may have been entirely different in other cities. In Chicago, for instance, I believe stores were attacked along the swanky Miracle Mile.

Around here we usually distinguish between protesters and people looting/burning, etc. Obviously there's no doubt some overlap, so in general we call it "unrest" to cover both phenomena.

But yeah, in my previous point I meant people alarmed by the rioting -- which, fair enough, is certainly alarming -- but aren't equally alarmed about racist policing. And of course the protesters aren't solely concerned about George Floyd's murder, but also the pattern of similar killings in other cities, or even just Black people being more likely to get pulled over for minor things, etc.


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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16797 on: November 15, 2020, 01:47:29 am »
Hiya BetterMost friends!!!!




I hope you're all doing well this weekend.

This has been a chore-free weekend, and I'm happy about that.  Except for laundry tomorrow, I've been able to relax and not worry about anything.

I have a friend who is a Scentsy representative, and he has a relative to was affected by Hurricane Maria, and back when the hurricane hit, he posted a message to Facebook that if anyone (back then) purchased items from him, he would be donating his income to his relative.

I had not been looking for any scented things to buy for the apartment, but I went to the site anyway, and saw this, and decided to buy it.








instead of burning a candle, you plug this into an outlet, and place scented wax in it.  As it warms and melts, it releases its scent.

I recently ordered some holiday themed waxes to melt.  Mint hot cocoa, frosted cranberry, and pumpkin muffin.  The wax bricks can sometimes be 'hit or miss' on their scents, but all the holiday ones smell good, and the pumpkin one is my favorite.   Some of the past scents I've had are blueberry muffin, cinnamon vanilla, and brownie batter.




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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16798 on: November 15, 2020, 02:08:25 am »
Chuck what you said about people not wanting to admit they are wrong hit home with me. I vow to sit with this idea and think of times I was wrong. Off the top of my head, I was wrong about not wanting to take the pills that were prescribed to me. I've gotten used to taking them now and it's not a burden anymore. I think they are doing me good.

There are certain things that I think of as core values for me and I hope they never change. I think all people deserve respect and to have their basic needs met. I think we are only as good as how we treat those who are poor or suffering. I believe in being kind and giving each person a chance. I believe people have a right to decide what happens to their own body. No one has a right to threaten or force others. That kind of thing. And maybe these people Katherine was talking about have hate as one of their core values. Maybe they experienced childhood trauma that pushed them away from other people.

This may be pollyannish, but possibly the act of admitting you're wrong could be reframed as changing your mind. I do know that people changed their mind about Trump and voted against him in the latest election. Sadly there are those who changed their minds the other way, including some people in our circle, including Brokies!  :-\


No one wants to admit they are wrong, they view it was being weak.  So rather than admit an error, they will double down and hold on to their original answers and feelings like a pit bull with a pork chop.  Admitting one is wrong or that one doesn't have all the answers is a weakness, but then being viewed as overly smart is also a detriment now.

I can remember when Obama was campaigning, and they were saying he was "elite", as a way to make his intelligence appear negative.  I remember thinking:  "Why is this a bad thing?  I want my president to be smarter than me."


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I'm not surprised by this at all.   I find myself unsure of how to deal with friends that I have that support Trump.  A friend posted this on Facebook, and it nailed exactly how I was feeling, and put much better than how I could say it.  It started with a quote from James Baldwin:  "We can disagree and still love each other....unless your disagreement is rooted in my oppression and denial of my humanity and right to exist."

The post, which my friend shared from another FB page,  then expanded on this in the original posters' own words:

Maybe I'll put it another way. You know me well enough to know that I believe in civility, decency, coming together, bipartisanship, and making love, not war.  But there has to be a baseline of morality, of shared humanity, first. Unless and until that's there, we can go no further. If you do not pass the James Baldwin test of humanity — not just for myself, but for my LGBTQ family, people of color and women, religious minorities, people with disabilities, for EVERYONE — then we cannot yet come together. These are matters upon which I will never, ever "agree to disagree."

You gleefully voted for a sociopath and his party, all of whom pose a direct threat to me and those I love. I’m not going to just pretend that didn’t happen for the sake of your comfort.


However, after all that, I keep coming back to the fact that this is the US, and people have the right to vote for who they choose, just as they don't have the right to impose their beliefs on me, I don't have the right to do that to them either.

So how do we move on?


Thank you! At least my paper is doing fairly well, relatively. Nobody's been laid off -- in fact, they're hiring. I heard just yesterday that there are now NO daily papers in North Dakota.

I think their core values are things like "People should have to work to support themselves, not expect support from others who earned what they have." Which is why they don't like universal health care, welfare, immigration, taxes, etc. "People should follow the law, and if they don't they should be punished." Which is why they like harsh crime bills and capital punishment, why they think Trump would have been a good "law and order" president who'd crack down on crime, why they were more alarmed by the unrest following George Floyd's death they were by the death itself. "The police are there to protect us and they have a difficult, dangerous job."

I could go on an on. They think people of color are more likely to be poor because they don't work hard and are disproportionately in prison because they commit more crimes, rather than that they have a harder time getting good jobs and are treated unfairly in the criminal justice system. They think the 1950s were the good old days because everyone lived pretty peacefully and shared similar values. They think society got out of hand in the 1960s and needs to go back to the traditional ways.

Of course, I think all these core beliefs have strong counterarguments. I think they're either wrong or don't see the whole picture. But those are their beliefs and they don't change easily.

Researchers have found that people who identify as Democrats or liberals and people who identify as Republicans or conservatives have very different core values when you take politics out of it. Respect for authority vs. questioning authority. Personal responsibility vs. societal support. Tradition vs. change.

I think something like realizing you were wrong about your pills isn't as hard as some of these other things. And if you strongly believed that Trump is a good, smart, regular guy working on behalf of your best interests, it's hard to acknowledge he's just the opposite and admit you were fooled all along.

But another problem I've seen in politics is that when politicians DO change their minds, realizing some policy they supported had negative consequences, we label it flip-flopping.


Yes, I agree with the flip-flopping/waffling aspect.  There is nothing wrong with changing one's mind.  Being open-minded is a positive thing.   I also agree that Democrats and Republicans have different core values.  The thing is, I don't disagree with all of those core values.  However, I do disagree with the ones that affect the rights of others (right to marriage, right to choose, equal pay for equal work)


I believe you get your point across--George Floyd's death was a horrible tragedy and a criminal act-- but I also believe that's a bit unfair to people of whatever stripe who were in danger of losing businesses they may have spent many years building, especially in cities that had no connection to Floyd's murder.

Good point. But in Minneapolis, at least, very few of those people were likely right-wing Trump supporters, given the neighborhood (mostly low income and/or lefty), with the possible exception of corporate-owned chain stores.

So yeah, people whose stores were destroyed -- I talked to one guy, the manager of a looted thrift store -- would have good reason to be upset. But most people think that some of the looting and burning was committed by opportunists. For example, they caught six white teenage boys who had driven in from Wisconsin expressly to loot liquor stores.

I would have thought one exception would be the police station that was burned. Protesters would have motive for that (it's the precinct of George Floyd's killers). And I think some have been arrested. But a couple of weeks ago they arrested a guy who shot an AK-47 into the building with people inside and apparently did other arson-y things. That guy identifies with the Boogaloo Boys (per Wikipedia: a loosely organized far-right, anti-government, and extremist political movement in the United States. ... Boogaloo adherents say they are preparing for, or seek to incite, a second American Civil War which they call the boogaloo.)

That said, circumstances may have been entirely different in other cities. In Chicago, for instance, I believe stores were attacked along the swanky Miracle Mile.

Around here we usually distinguish between protesters and people looting/burning, etc. Obviously there's no doubt some overlap, so in general we call it "unrest" to cover both phenomena.

But yeah, in my previous point I meant people alarmed by the rioting -- which, fair enough, is certainly alarming -- but aren't equally alarmed about racist policing. And of course the protesters aren't solely concerned about George Floyd's murder, but also the pattern of similar killings in other cities, or even just Black people being more likely to get pulled over for minor things, etc.


I'm sure that most people would be against the looting and destruction of property, but they need to realize a few things.  First is that (as Katy stated) there were counter-protesters who took part to make the original protesters look bad.   Another point that I saw made on Facebook was that when things started amping up, people were trying to peacefully protest by taking the knee during the anthem, and they were vilified for that.  So when you take peaceful protest away, what does that leave?


Tell him when l come up to him and ask to play the record, l'm gonna say: ''Voulez-vous jouer ce disque?''
'Voulez-vous, will you kiss my dick?'
Will you play my record? One-track mind!

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Re: Cellar Scribblings
« Reply #16799 on: November 15, 2020, 10:49:21 am »
I think their core values are things like "People should have to work to support themselves, not expect support from others who earned what they have." ... "People should follow the law, and if they don't they should be punished."

the thing is, I don't disagree with all of those core values.  However, I do disagree with the ones that affect the rights of others (right to marriage, right to choose, equal pay for equal work)

I should clarify that I don't outright disagree with any of them! I don't think people should lie around and expect others to support them without lifting a finger. I don't believe people should wantonly break the law and not pay any consequences, etc.

And I don't believe most conservatives would say they don't think we should respect other people's rights, or they don't think people should be treated equally, etc.

The difference comes in how those core values are applied, whether they're being violated in one situation or another, how much they're emphasized, whether they take in the whole picture.

For example, I don't think people should lazily sit around expecting others to support them. But to me, that's not what, for example, universal health care is about. Many, many people who work very hard don't have health insurance because their jobs don't provide it. Conservatives, in my experience, don't always see that big picture.

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I can remember when Obama was campaigning, and they were saying he was "elite", as a way to make his intelligence appear negative.  I remember thinking:  "Why is this a bad thing?  I want my president to be smarter than me."

I remember when Obama was running, a former Brokie scoffed at him for having gone to Ivy League schools. I was like, what?! Granted, I think Ivy League degrees are way overvalued, especially considering not all of them are based entirely on academic merit. I've worked with a lot of people with IL degrees who didn't necessarily stand out from those who attended less prestigious colleges. But I certainly don't see it as a negative!

Class is a big and bitter issue for part of Trump's base.