Merci beaucoup Fiona (optom)!!
You say:
It is the human condition to want to be surrounded by like minded people.It gives us comfort.It also lessens the sense of isolation and bewilderment.
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Fiona: that is why I saw Annie's movie/story, in order to seek others like I am!! I love it when I can reach another gay person, and that includes straights who accept gays too!!
I still wonder:
Why are we like this? ... in different ways !! ??
Hugs! P.S. Oh! A wonderful neighbour came to-day! Mother says that neighbour's eye are getting very much white! What doe sthat mean?
Depends which part of the eye.If the pupil (black centre)is becomming white,it normally indicates cataract.That would usually be in an older person.If there is a faint white ring just inside the outer edge of the iris,(coloured part)that indictes high cholesterol levels.That can be from age 35ish onwards.If the white of the eyes is very white,the person is using eydrops to constrict the blood vesels and make the white look very bright.
Oh my goodness where do these posts lead.!!!
As for why are we like this in different ways,I still think it is empathy.If you are gay,you automatically feel empathy for the plight of Ennis and Jack.If you are straight,then you can still feel empathy.This can be direct, or indirect,because you have suffered some other form of "forbidden" love yourself,or persecution and marginalisation,due to race,religion,even looks e.g overweight.
How many of us have had to endure the unfair judging by others.When I wa at school,I was bullied simply becuse I wa so small.Later,my love mess automatically led to me relating directly to the film.
Perhaps the only ones who are "not like this" are those who so far in life have done the judging,on what ever level.They set themselves above us other mere mortals.They moralise and preach,convinced of their righteousness.I have no time for them.No one is perfect,absoloutely no one.
By taking the moral high ground,they are in fact acting a judge and jury.To judge is arrogant, as it presumes your view is the only one.Arrogance is in apposition with empathy,and is really a weakness.Which is curious as the arrogant,by virtue of being so would argue that they were strong!!!! What a conundrum.To empathise is to be strong,as to do so you have to admit your own weaknesses,and you have to be strong of character to admit to having some weakneses.
To be arrogant is weak as you do not have the moral courage to admit to any weakness.
So I say again it is all down to empathy on some level.